generally confused or is it the bpd?

[DannieGirl]

Hi guys and girls,

Hope all are well?

I've always been sure I'm bisexual, well since I worked it out when i was in secondry school.
I've never been in a relationship with a girl, just slept with them and had crushes on them, one girl i got very close to and we both had the same feelings then she went off the rails and we lost contact. I think the reason i've never had a gf is because around here girls only pretend to be bi because they want attention from the guys and i didn't know any leasbians, I've only started meeting some in the last 18months.

Anyway, i've had 3 serious boyfriends in the last 7 years, one from the age of 14 till i was 16, another 16-19, and my current, we've been together or a year(we met on the stepps course for bpd (borderline) and realised we knew some of the same people) this relationship is going so well and i am so happy with him, he has done alot for me, we've got alot in common and he has taught me things that have turned into hobbies... i feel like we're meant to be together (i realise this sounds corny), we have the same ideas of what we want for the future and we plan on making a future together.

for the last 2ish months i have had feelings for a girl who i started talking to in a coffee shop she works in, i know her house mate, i meet her on her lunch breaks now and then and we get on well, we keep meaning to meet up when she's not at work and it keeps not happening... i keep putting it off in the worry that i will end up doing things with her and cheating on my bf. I've been questioninge my sexuality alot lately and questioning whether i want to be with my bf or if i should be with him...(but i can't imagien life without him)

is this me or the mood swings/impulsivity of bpd? what should i do?

[mikey]

I think it's normal to question your sexuality and there's nothing to be ashamed of in doing so. You like who you like, and there's not a lot you can do about it! Having said that, it sounds like your relationship with your boyfriend is really strong and I just wonder whether it would be worth throwing away. Ultimately it's up to you. But if you want your relationship with your boy to continue, perhaps you should try and stay away from this girl, just to avoid 'temptation' as it were.

[DannieGirl]

Yer, I've only seen her on her lunch breaks, as I worry to see her In private, not because I don't trust myself,ore that of she tries it on with me I wouldn't be able to say no? I don't know I know I love Charlie(my bf), my head is just so confused

[PinQ]

I struggle with the same kind of confusions really. I understand where your coming from and it can be easy to question a relationship. But if its working and he supports you then you should try your best to stick with him I think. Ultimately you have to go with your feelings but perhaps try not to make arrangements to meet up with the girl if you don't trust yourself. This way the temptation is removed. Sorry that didn't really help.