So my mum found out i s/h and now I quit for a month and 4 ays only to start again about 2 days ago. She already kept threatning to take me to a doctors and stuff. She found my blade I cut myself with and shes taken it. Now she says shes taing all razors form the house, shes gonna tell my school so i dont steal art supplies (craft knifes) wtf? anyway and know she says i either have to talk to her or some other adult or shes taking me to a doctor next week. IO dont know what to do, I cant talk to her or anyone else, I just.. cant, there are so many secrets. I cant tell. I cant open up to her, or any other family member, my famioly hates me. Im serious. They just pity me. But I dont know if I should go to as doctor either. Please can anyone give me some advice?
'Be yourself, don't take **** from anyone and never let them take you alive' - Gerard Way
hi
my parents found out about my sh a while ago now, altho they were less drastic they still said they wanted to take me to the docs and stuff like that.
sorry, i dont have much advise but maybe take her up on talking to a counciller or something. even tho you dont think youd ever be able to now, you may find it helpful to start to talk. you wouldnt have to tell them everything straight away
Often parents react like that because they're not sure what else to do. They don't understand SI and see it as a big terrible thing.
Print out some information about SI from the internet explaining why people SI so she can try and understnad more. Tell her, or write a letter explaining, that it's not the SI that's the problem, it's the feelings behind it and trying to force you to stop won't help those feelings, it will only make things worse.
I'm so sorry your mum has done this, my parents also took all my blades away and hid everything sharp. I had loads of stashed of tools and they searched my room and everything, I understand how you must be feeling at them moment.
It might help to see a counsellor about it tohugh, I think it's helped me. I haven't stopped SI or anything, but it's helped to think about why I do it more and understand it myself. You won't be orced to talk about naything you don't want to, but you might find you're more open with them than you normally would be. If you're not comfortable talknig to your normal dr, then you could ask him/her to refer you to a therapist.
PM box is always open if you want to talk about aything.
xx
Firstly, I'm sorry you're going through this; my mum reacted in a similar way and I know she did it because she wanted to help, but it wasn't constructive at all. You say you can't talk to her, and I can understand where you're coming from, but if you want this situation to get any better, you're going to have to try and grit your teeth and communicate with her in some way. If you can't speak to her, then writing a letter might help. As ghost has already said, printing off some information about SI from here, or other internet sites, might help your mum to see things more clearly. Obviously, she feels that removing all your sharps is going to help, but I would imagine that it's only leaving you feeling more agitated and needing to cut. Explain to her that you understand that she's worried and that you know she wants to help, but what she is doing now isn't really making you feel better. If you can think of anything at all that she can do to help you, mention it, because she'll feel better to be doing something that's helping.
I know it's really scary and not really something you want to be forced into, but going to see a doctor could be really beneficial. I know that for me, if my mum had never taken me to the doctor, I would never have gone and as it turned out, making me go to the doctor was the best thing that she did for me. It definitely didn't feel like it at the time and for a while i resented her for it, particularly when I was on meds that I didn't agree with; but ultimately, it was what I needed to get better. Please consider going: it's not easy at first to open up, but it is really important to try and deal with the feelings behind your SI.
Take care
xxx
Thanks for all your help, im going to the doctors this Thursday and I guess I just have to see where it goes from there. I think I will try writing a letter or something, its just hard. Im not very good at opening up tbh. Especially not to my family but Im still gonna try. Im dreading going but maybe it will help, who knows..
'Be yourself, don't take **** from anyone and never let them take you alive' - Gerard Way
