Contains ED - Relationship issue? Big Butts?

[PearlsNY88]

Hi everyone my name is Ruin and i'm 23. I'm sorry i dont post much in this forum, i'm usually floating around the ED section. But i'll try and post and reply more to get to know you Vets! Well, heres my issue lol.. feel free to laugh and respond. I'm sorry if you take offence to anything i'm saying, I will be more then happy to delete or change.. But i'm just going by whats happening these days and what I realized <3

Basically I been suffering an eating disorder for years.. since i was a young teen maybe even younger. I been striving for a healthy looking body (not too great on the inside i'm sure) but yeah thats how i been like for years. Now i have this boyfriend... who likes...... cellulite.. flabby extra large butts! He makes jokes like the crater looking ones or the dimple looking ones looks like theyre smiling at you! He LOVES what i thought were.. untoned butts. It makes me feel bad! But he likes the junk in the trunk kinda ones that sticks out like you could place a large cup of juice on without it tipping over? Lol.

Its like excuse me for going to the gym? He likes my butt sure.. but he LOVES those jiggling lava lamp lookin round mama butts.

Has anyone been through this?? Its frustrating cause its like.. I'm sorry i dont have a sloppy looking butt? lol i dont know what to think!! Its funny i swear but also frustrating! Now i stare at girls in tights comparing and wondering.. NOW this.. i know is unhealthhy

uhh anyone with a similar story? lol thanks <3

[Margo]

Just be careful. It doesnt really matter what size he likes as long as he likes you for who you are. Many men enjoy the figures of women they could never possibly attain, but that doesnt mean they dont love their partners for the shape or size they are. the problem is when it becomes a problem for them and ultimately a problem for you.

changing for him is going to send you into a spin and ultimately damage what you have tried long and hard to achieve (be it the right or wrong way). Be mindful of his comments. Be mibndful of any leading remarks or attempts to change you purely for his benefit alone. Asking someone to change because you ultimately feel it will help them for health reasons is not unreasonable, but asking to change for anything else is dangerous ground.

Oh and if he starts feeding you creme cakes and pasta meals at 11pm RUN A MILE cus hes one of those feeders :P

[PearlsNY88]

I would never let anyone feed me like that! lmao..
Yeah its really gotten me feeling bad about myself in ways but at the same time its like.... as much as i complain about my body (ED talking) I enjoy the fact I dont have a bouncing flabby thing ya kno! lol.. like is that a crime these days? Model/toned bodies are out curvey or messy woman are in? Idk.. but thanks for the reply lol

I wouldnt change myself for any guy.. no way no how ;) <3

[Margo]

You can pm me a pic if unsure ;)

[PearlsNY88]

haha wicked! :P