What the hell

[MayhemBee]

I feel so out of control. I cant control my emotions, it's like someone else takes over. I'm so scared i'll lose control over something and end up hurting someone. When i get angry i have to fight really hard not to just go completely psycho and injure someone or myself. I'm so confused. I just dont get it. I mean why? What the hell is going on here? Any replies greatly appreciated. :)

[Stellata]

I understand the fear and the shame and confusion. I know more now what causes states like that in me. The reasons are complicated, partly due to having been abused, and feeling powerless, partly due to not having been safely educated about emotions in a healthy way, and having a whole bunch of rage and anger about a whole bundle of stuff, past and present, internal and external.
It's best to take these kinds of struggles to your work with a counsellor or psychotherapist, though, as you really do need help managing them and understanding how things are for you.

[PinQ]

I really battle with my emotions because I have BPD. Sometimes you just have to take time out. Therapy can teach you techniques to manage your emotions and calm down when angry. Don't be worried because lots of other people feel like they are a danger to themselves and others especially when angry. Hope that you get some help.

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

Although therapy is an excellent idea it does take time.
In the meantime when you feel uncontrollably angry here are some things you could try:
punching a pillow.
throwing bottles into a bottle bank.
breathing exercises to calm yourself.
stabbing paper with a pen.
I'm sure others on here will have some good suggestions as well :)
xxx

[MayhemBee]

I just need to get up the courage to talk to someone. Even if i did i'm not sure anything would actually get done, it never seems to. I feel so out of control in everything.

[Laura2.0]

*hugs* I'm feeling the same way when I'm angry.

Is it possible for you to remove yourself from a situation when you are feeling that you are getting angry? Then you can write in your journal, punch pillows, stab paper, etc.

[MayhemBee]

Yeah, i'm trying to remove myself but its hard. It's mostly my brother who makes me angry, and we're usually pretty close. Thing is i really want to just scream or attack things, but i have no alone time. I dont like to draw attention to how i feel to avoid questions usually. :( Probably not the most helpful thing to do. But the paper thing sounds like a good idea. :)

[not_so_insig]

One thing that I found good when angry is to have a go at the boxing on the Wii! I take my anger and frustration out on the person I am boxing with rather than myself or others!!!

[MayhemBee]

No wii for me! Just have to attack randon things instead. :)

[not_so_insig]

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Originally Posted by Mayhem

No wii for me! Just have to attack randon things instead. :)

I have heard that attacking pillows or cushions is good. You can punch/kick as hard as you like, and it gotta be less painful than punching a wall! Also it's far better solution than punching someone else.

[Laura2.0]

and you could print out pictures of the people you are mad at and attack them to the pillow. then punch it

[MayhemBee]

Its all really helpful people, thankyou. It can be hard to have any privacy cos i share a room with my brother, and he is so nosey. Thanks again...

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

The privacy thing could be countered by joining a club, eg: you could do real boxing instead of wii boxing.
Just saying cause I think martial arts helped me with my anger a lot (even though the classes weren't necessarily at the time of my anger it made it more productive & made me less likely to lash out in other situations)

xxx

[MayhemBee]

I used to do taekwondo but it really p*ssed me off. I find exercise can be a pretty good outlet though. Although that isnt always really very constructive. I've been so busy revising my exercisisng has kinda gone out of the window. I reckon starting that again would be helpful. :)

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

I've done that - but I've promised myself I'll start exercising once exams are over :)
Exercising can be constructive, particularly if you set yourself a target (ie: complete x run or x triathlon or be able to swim x lengths) as that can keep you motivated as well.
xxx