Trust me, sweetie, people care. They just don't know how to help because most of us on here have the same problem and we can't fix it ourselves! My shrink once told me that whenever the voices start hounding you, you have to argue with them. It's hard and it sucks. But if you can keep it up for long enough you will eventually change your thought process. How many years have you been repeating what the negative voices have to say? That you're not good enough or pretty enough, etc.? You have to fight them for just as long to make them go away. These things take time and a serious commitment. Like I said, it's hard and it sucks.
But just think, you could start small and gradually work your way up. For instance, if the negative voice says, "you're not pretty. No one could ever love you." you could argue, "that's not true. everyone has a different idea of beauty. Statistically speaking, there HAS to be at least a handful of people in the world who would find me attractive." That's very general. If you're feeling more confident, you could argue, "that's not true. My hair looks awesome today." Or something like that.
Anyway, my shrink says it helps and I've known others to say that too. You have to find happiness in the little things. Me, I hate myself. I hate my body, I hate being naked, I just generally am repulsed by myself. BUT I found out that I like my breast bone and where my collar bones connect to it. I think it looks like wings and I think it's beautiful. When I really start hating on myself, I just fiddle with my collar bones. It's the little things that get you through.
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