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Old 18-03-2011, 10:02 PM   #1
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Today my mom said that she was going to legally divorce my dad I wanted to talk about it and she said shut the **** up she never cares about anything I have to say I am tired of living like this and she makes me feel so guilty all the time. Right now I need someone caring to talk to someone that understands what I am going through. No one around me seems to care about me I want to have a normal life.... I am shaking right now I feel so unloved, pathetic..... I want to cut myself so bad. I need to release the pain....


I'm sorry if my post are getting annoying...............

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Old 18-03-2011, 10:15 PM   #2
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Your posts are not annoying!Some people especially me enjoy reading them. You mother has no right to say that but maybe she is stressed. Do not think much of it or dwell upon it. Right now is a stressful time and I am sorry. What about it makes you feel guilty? Many kids feel guilty when their parents divorce but it is not your fault, if that is what you are thinking.

Please do not cut though. I know the temptation is there but you can beat it. I blieve you can :) Go running, take a stroll, paint, draw, write, yell. Punch a pillow. Other things to do instead.

I care for you and I understand. I know your parents care for you. It just may not be showing completely right now, but they do.

If you want, you can talk to me. Venting is better than cutting. Talk to it too somebody because it is better too release. Please talk to somebody. Can you call somebody or email a friend you would like to talk to?

Please do not make a choice you will reegret and know you ARE loved.

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Old 19-03-2011, 12:34 AM   #3
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*hugs* It sounds like things are really tough :( I can kind of relate with the feelings created by parents... that's never a pleasant thing.

Always remember that you are an absolutely wonderful person. You are loved so much! We are all here to support you, and show you how much we care. I truly hope you are able to fight the urges. We are always here for you <3

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Old 19-03-2011, 04:13 AM   #4
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*huggles* I don't have many words to say to you right now, but your words do matter. You have the right to talk to your mother about how the divorce is affecting you. Because not only is your mother losing her husband, you're losing the comfort zone of your family.
We will always be here to support you, never be afraid to post. What you have to say, does matter. If you can't talk about how you're feeling at home, please talk about it here. You do need to get everything off your chest, because locking everything up is worse in the long run.
I am always just a PM away if you need to talk m'dear. You don't need to hurt yourself. You need to set yourself free from all that.
You're in my thoughts.
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Old 19-03-2011, 04:26 AM   #5
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BGonya honey, I'm so sorry for what you're goin through! I'm sure your parents do love you. It doesn't make it ok, but try to understand that they're hurting a lot too! What do you feel guilty about? You can always talk to us. We'll always care n always listen n support you in whatever way you need. I understand the feeling of needing to release the pain, but there are other ways to get through those times. There's a fantastic list on here in an old thread called, Things to do instead of harming by Squirel Spit. It's different than other lists I've seen n definitely worth checkin out. If you have trouble findin it, pm me n I'll send it to ya. Of course you can always come on here too n post or go in a chat room to get instant support. Please do these things before you harm, then maybe you won't feel that you have to. We love you hun! Please be safe!

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Old 19-03-2011, 02:04 PM   #6
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it might be easier to have a productive conversation with your mom if you wait a bit and let her cool off, cause it sounds like she was pretty stressed or angry when she said that. or maybe a letter would be easier.

do you have other adults that you can trust more? you could talk about this to them and they would probably be more understanding. i think that especially with divorce, parents aren't always the best confidants because they are so involved in the divorce and often have their own issues and anger towards the other person.

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Old 19-03-2011, 03:04 PM   #7
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*hugs* Just wanted to say that we are all here for you <3 You are most definitely loved and cherished. I really do hope you're alright!
How are things today?



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Old 19-03-2011, 08:21 PM   #8
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*leaves hugs*
Aw. I can relate to that too dear. My parents split up last year. It's definitely a tough one. =/
We are all here for support with whatever you need, <3 and you can pm me anytime you need to talk. Take care honey.










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Old 19-03-2011, 09:43 PM   #9
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Hey man. I am sorry your life seems like **** right now. Is there anyway that you could live with your dad instead of your mom if she is treating you like that.


Also try not to SI. I know its hard when the world seems like its crashing down on you but its not going to help in the long run.




Then wear the gold hat, if that will move her;
If you can bounce high, bounce for her too,
Till she cry "Lover, gold-hatted, high-bouncing lover,
I must have you!"

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Old 20-03-2011, 05:57 AM   #10
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Hello Everyone,


Today my mom said that she was going to legally divorce my dad I wanted to talk about it and she said shut the **** up she never cares about anything I have to say I am tired of living like this and she makes me feel so guilty all the time. Right now I need someone caring to talk to someone that understands what I am going through. No one around me seems to care about me I want to have a normal life.... I am shaking right now I feel so unloved, pathetic..... I want to cut myself so bad. I need to release the pain....


I'm sorry if my post are getting annoying...............

Hey there Bgonya...i read your post..and i wanted you to know that you are not..i repeat..NOT alone in this..

what your mom said to you was wrong...she didnt have the right to say what she said...

i will say this..you are loved here and cared about...u have us to lean on..u dont have to go through this alone..

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