something i heard on criminal minds..

samantharandi · 05-03-2011, 05:35 AM

So im watching criminal minds atm
love this show...but
its about a man who lures woman in by his little boy bringing them to his dad..
and and the others were doing a profile and was saying that he has someone called borderline personality disorder, i have bpd , he said people with BPD think the relationship revovles around them... i honestly dont think that , and that really offended me. i would never use my son like that
anyone have any thoughts?

Stellata · 05-03-2011, 08:23 AM

Having distress in relationship does not necessarily mean it results in behaviour which is termed 'criminal'. As you're probably aware, folks with Borderline can feel very insecure and empty. This pans out in different ways, and sometimes when people feel frantic and desperate for connection, extreme methods can get adopted.
It doesn't make anyone 'bad', but rather the different angles to be understood and explored, and eventually alternative ways of coping nurtured and figured out.

startingagain · 05-03-2011, 10:27 AM

I watch it too and didn't like it, it is referred to again in series 6, and again it is an extreme case. It doesn't mean that everyone with BPD will behave in this way. I have BPD and have a successful career and like everything there is a wide spectrum. I should imagine that everyone who has one of the conditions that gets mentioned feels the same. A bit like the film rain man and his autism being at the far end.

sherlock holmes · 05-03-2011, 01:14 PM

It's television, not real life. Try not to take it to heart. Everything on tv is exaggerated and dramatised.

And everyone with BPD experiences different symptoms which manifest in different ways.

samantharandi · 06-03-2011, 06:18 PM

thanks guys :)

roiben · 10-03-2011, 02:29 PM

I think it is always worth being wary of tv dramatisation. If anything, tv writers work on stereotypes and stigma much more than real life as they want to eek out all the drama they can from any given situation. It is not a good thing - in my eyes as it can only lead to upset. Do be careful and try not to take it to heart too much.

Roiben x