How do I overcome this trigger? =/

[VampiricShadow]

My parents are really loud and they stomp around the house a lot and whenever I hear them, I absolutely have to hurt myself, usually by hitting myself. I try to play my music loud enough that I can't hear them, but then they yell at me for playing my music too loud... They're my worst trigger. Help, please?

[Drewbles]

Hm. That is tough dear. *hug*
Is there anyway you can get out of the house when they're worked up like that? Maybe go for a walk or just chill in the yard? That's what I did usually. Just escape the tension and noise somewhere for a bit.

Or if you had headphones you could listen to music that way, and it would probably be easier to drown it out, as long as it's not too loud. Don't want to hurt your ears.

The other option is maybe expressing to them when they are calm that their arguing bothers you? It may or may not be a good idea, depends on your parents.

*big hugs* Take care dear. I'm here for you if you ever want to talk. <3
Lauren

[VampiricShadow]

It's not even that they're arguing or anything though... They're just naturally really loud and..big people.

Ugh I already slipped up and cut. I think I do need to spend more time outside =/ At least the fresh air/exercise will help me deal with this

[Drewbles]

*big hugs*
Maybe taking a break is your best option then dear.
Just something that can get you away from your triggers once in a while.

[VampiricShadow]

Thank you =) I just don't really know what to do... Eh I'll figure something out. Just did 100 pushups and I feel better =)

[xoitschristyxo]

Try to distract yourself anyway you can.
When I'm really stressed out about my parents (I feel yah in the whole 'really loud' 'stomping' etc department), I try to use art as an escape. Most of the time it's not very good, but it's a great way to destress. I put on my headphones (I can't leave the house very often because I'm sick at the moment) and put my music loud enough to drown them out, but since it's via headphones, they can't hear. Try the big skull candy headphones if you are going to buy any, they work really well to block out noise. Or DJing headphones work well too.

I hope everything works out dearie <3 Stay strong! and remember, it's okay to make mistakes, don't get mad at yourself for it in a way that would cause you to just want to harm again as punishment or something (I get like that sometimes and I know it's a hard cycle to break.)

[VampiricShadow]

Yeah I'm listening to nice relaxing music from my favorite game right now with my headphones =D Yayyyy!

[xbertyx]

id say headphones =]