Boyfriend Doesnt Understand

[Y-ME]

My boyfriend doesnt understand that you cant just stop SI. He gets mad everytime he sees it no matter how old the cuts are. He wants me to talk to him but I just feel stupid doing that. Any advice??

[bethrenea]

Well for one, he won't understand it unless you do talk to him about it.

And it's good that he wants to talk about it; it shows he cares. Try your best to explain it to him and tell him that it isn't a matter of just quitting. It's an addiction like any other. Try talking about it to him and help him understand.

[xlaurenx]

Hi hun,

I know its hard when people dont understand, it frustrated me alot when my parents didn;t and still dont understand, I know its hard as i find it hard to talk but its the best way forward I tried to explain it to my dad once ( he smokes) i said how 'its like me telling you after a certain date you can never smoke again, or if smoking was the only way you knew how to cope with stress or anger etc, it was your way to cope and i told you , no you arent smoking anymore you might panic as they only way you know how to cope with things is been taken away from you' Thats what i told him.. He kinda got it but.. i guess from a parents/ bf/gf point of view its hard to see someone they love hurt themselves. Another thing if you cant actually get the words out then write him a letter :)

[strawberry11]

If he wants you to talk to him then I would. That is more than my ex would let me do. He pretty much just didn't want to know that is what I was doing. Even if he never tells you or says Yes I get it I understand, maybe there will be something he will get from you talking to him that will help him better help you. best of wishes~

[ProzacSmile]

its good that he wants to talk to you. my bf is pretty supportive, but wont ever understand totally. i find it really hard to talk to him, but he will just sit me down until i do lol.