Just before Christmas I found out my best friends mum, my Aunt Josephine had Endometrial Cancer...
I don't think it's really sunk in yet. I know the survival rate for Endometrial Cancer is quite high, as long as it's caught in it's early stages, which it was, thank God.
She goes in on the 28th for her operation, a full hysterectomy.
Until then, we really don't know the results.
She's been like a second Mother to me, and helped me through some of the worst times of my life, and I'm trying to keep strong and stay positive for my best friend and her wee brother...
It's just really hard.
If you've been affected by cancer in your family or friends, how did you deal with it?
I'm Not Afraidッ
Baby Lyssa
Rest In Peace
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Pretty, pretty please,
Don't you ever, ever feel
That you're less than f*cking perfect.
Hey! I've know my Grandma had cancer, but it wasn't something she died from and she lived a normal life. I also have a cousin who is going through all of the treatments for cancer. I haven't really gone through "hard times" when finding out about these things because I'm not close to my cousin and I knew my Grandma was okay. But, the point of me writing this is because I wanted to say that it is okay to hurt and show emotion through all of this. I know you want to be strong for your friend and her little brother, but this is a hard time for everyone right now and I am positive that they will understand. I hope everything goes well with your friend's mom. PM me anytime if you would ever like to talk. Take care. :)
Hey I can understand how you're feeling, lovely. I've never had cancer, but within the last four years my aunt got cancer, my mummy did and so did my Grommy. Unfortunately only my mum survived, but cancer survival rates are getting higher and higher and it's raelly good that they managed to catch it early, the earlier the better.
All you can really do is be there for them and let you know that you care. Also, when you're with them, don't necessarily focus on the cancer. Obviously talk about it when she wants to, but don't just talk about it. Talk about random rubbish that's happening, have a laugh, try and act normal. I remember when my mummy's hair fell out during chemo we tried to have a laugh about it to make it less scary, she joked that she looked like Gollum fomr LOTR! :P
Do you have other friends and family that can be there to support you in this as well? I know that I pretty much kept everything bottled up, because according to my counsellor, I support everyone else and aren't so good at letting people help me. But this is not a good thing, you need support to, cancer affects more than just the person suffering with it. Remember that it's okay to cry, it's okay to get angry and it's okay to be upset.
Try and stay as positive as possible. I hope that everything goes okay and feel free to PM me whenever. I really do mean that.
Take care and look after yourself as well
Lydia
xx
My mum has terminal cancer, which we're hoping to find out is operable within the next couple of weeks; it's been inoperable since March.
It's scary at first, it's such a shock isn't it? It sounds like the survival rates are good for your best friend's mum, so that's really positive, they can do so much these days with treatments.
It's ok to feel however you feel - sad, angry, worried, stressed, confused, and also it's ok to be happy or to look forward to things still, I know it can feel a bit 'wrong' to be happy sometimes.
It's good to talk about it, do you have anyone you can discuss it with? Counselling can help, or there are helplines, you could even ask to speak to one of the nurses involved if it would help. A lot of people don't really like talking about it, but it can really help - I know my mum's said it helps her to be open about it, and I know it helps me when my best friend asks what's going on and how things are etc. At the same time, it's also good to do things and just forget about it and do lots of normal things do, and to have fun and be silly together etc.
Don't feel that you have to put on an act and be strong all the time, it's ok to be sad, and sometimes just crying can help a bit. I hope you're ok, and your best friend and her brother, and it hope it goes well for your best friend's mum. If you need anything you can always PM me. x
My dad had cancer which was caught just in time he had chemo and has now been cancer free for over 6 months. Shock is a normal emotion when you get news that someone has cancer. At the same time as my dad got diagnosed two other people i know were one survived the other didnt but what im say is that survival rates are alot better than they use to be and your 2nd mums cancer was caught early which is another postive.
Maybe you could say to her that your here for her and that you will give her strength to fight this.
My dad was always and still is a quiet it person but he was scared when he had cancer especially when he had alot of problems during his chemo but he fought it and pulled through it and is doing really good.
If you need to chat my inbox is always open just dont bottle things up
Thank you everyone. Sorry to hear about your plights :(
I'm the kinda person who bottles everything up and supports others, and I have a big problem letting people close to me help me, I guess that's why I find RYL so good.
I'm Not Afraidッ
Baby Lyssa
Rest In Peace
My Shooting Star
Pretty, pretty please,
Don't you ever, ever feel
That you're less than f*cking perfect.
I'm exactly the same, RYL was the first place I actually talked about stuff. But you need to open up at times like this, it just gets so much harder when you feel you have no one to talk to. I'm always here if you want to give me a PM
