Triggering (SI) - Moving back to home town, scar anxiety, parents, blah

TouchVanDerBoom · 30-08-2007, 05:14 PM

This weekend Matthew and I have to move out of here and go back to our home town. We haven't found anywhere to live yet so he'll be staying with his parents and I'll be staying with various friends and his parents a bit until we get a place. I would go to my mum's or at a push even my dad's but I have new, very noticable pink scars all up my forearms and they don't even know I still cut. At my dad's I might at a push be able to manage with long sleeves but at my mum's she a) always buys me tops and expects me to try them on b) sees me often in my nightwear and c) knows what clothes I have and will wonder why I'm not wearing any of the short sleeved things.

Does anyone have any scar solutions? Could I cover them with foundation? Or ...I dunno, what? I'd love to stay with my mum. She's getting married in a week in Scotland and I'm not going so it'd be cool to be with her for the last week before she goes.

I have no idea what I'm gonna do with myself now. I can't look for a job till I've been on holiday so what will I do till mid-October? Especially if Matthew gets a job. My parents are going to go mad when they find out I won't graduate till June. I want to start doing things but I'm so afraid of everything. I'm 23 and I've never had a job. And no one believes about Asperger's, except my counsellor. I'm not even sure I believe it...

chocostashchick · 30-08-2007, 09:38 PM

well for scar solutions, makeup can work as long as the scars are fully healed. you dont want to put makeup on scars that are still scabby and healing! what i found can work is that blemish coverup stuff, because a lot of my scars are still reddish-pink like blemishes so the makeup coverup does a really good job of covering the redness of the scars. especially good is the greenish tinted coverup because red is opposite green or something on the color wheel so the green in the makeup cancels out the red and it looks like your skin.

honey i am so proud of you for finishing all your work and being so brave with all of this. i am still looking for a job too, and i had to move back with my mom who doesnt know about any of this either, so i know how you feel. i am just wearing lots of big clothes that cover a lot and spending a lot of time in my room and in the bathroom and alone, and its hard because i know i am isolating myself but i am just not ready for confrontations. i hope that this goes well for you. fall is almost here and then you can wear long sleeves. hopefully now that your school work is all done you will be less stressed and more relaxed and you can keep safe. good luck honey.
xxxooo

TouchVanDerBoom · 30-08-2007, 09:52 PM

Aww, Callie! That was a lovely reply. Thanks so much. I never thought of blemish cover up. My mum used to use that green stuff and it'll work well on my scars as they have that pink/red colour to them. That will help me a lot. What brand do you use?

Maybe I can avoid my mum as you do but it's hard. She lives in a small flat and her fiance works a lot, so it'd be just me and her a lot. I'll try though, I don't wanna stay with friends the whole time, I wanna be able to chill out at home. Maybe I can sleep at my boyfriend's this weekend, then go to my mum's for a couple of nights, then to my friend Andy's, back to mum's, then to my friend Minnie's and then when I return to mum's she'll be away getting married for a week. After that Matthew and I oughta have a place of our own. Yep, that sounds like a plan.

chocostashchick · 30-08-2007, 10:09 PM

aww miss francesca im glad it helped!
i use a neutrogena one but before that i think i used a smashbox one and they were both fine
i'm glad you have a plan now! it's nice that you have so many friends and places you can go. i guess it will be nice to see people and get out now that school is done. good luck finding your apartment! and have fun visiting people!

Merc · 30-08-2007, 11:16 PM

I dont know if you can get it there...but we have a cover-up called 'dermablend' and it is meant to cover scars, except they mean it for surgery scars :|..but my gf used it and it worked really really well. It is expensive but it lasts forever.
Good luck with it all, lwet us know how you are getting on
romp