'Giveing myself away'.

fuzzy_sweets · 19-12-2010, 05:09 PM

Hello this thread is a bit long winded so will cut it short as I can. Basically I am getting married in 6 months time (YAY). Although my family are not being very supportive (BOO).

My grandad was supposed to give me away as I dont know who my dad is but he (my grandad) has really not bother with me in the past yr tbh. I offered for him to meet my future husband but he politely said 'we will just see you at the wedding'. I feel hurt and like they are not making much effort although i do appreciate that he is a busy guy. I think it would just feel awquard for him to meet my fiance on the DAY of my wedding and having not seen him for over a year too.

So what I am asking is, do you think it would be bad if i 'gave myself away' and walked down the aisle myself??? I really cannot think of anyone else who i'd like to give me away :(

Lou Lou · 19-12-2010, 06:21 PM

I don't suppose there is any rule saying you HAVE to have someone give you away. If you are comfortable doing that, then do it. It's your wedding day.

If not, is there a close friend that could give you away. Your mum or sibling perhaps?

fuzzy_sweets · 19-12-2010, 06:27 PM

I dont particularly 'want' to give myself away or feel comfortbale doing it, but theres no-one else who i feel is appropriate to give me away. Seen as my sister is my maid of honour and my mum and i don't really get along the best of times.

Lou Lou · 19-12-2010, 06:48 PM

ah I see, I can understand that you would want someone to give you away, obviously you know your family dynamics better than I do lol, but basically you could have whoever you want to give you away. Or no one at all if that's the way it is. it is not "bad" to give yourself away at all :)

Sefka · 19-12-2010, 08:17 PM

I'd see giving yourself away as a very independent thing, in a very positive way. But I can see why you'd feel uncomfortable with it. Do you have a close friend who would do it?

Popple · 19-12-2010, 08:49 PM

No it is fine to give yourself away, you don't need anyone to give you away, you are your own person. I am probably 'giving myself away' too and I get that it feels a bit odd.. it has caused me no end of problems! But I am sure loads of people do it and even if they don't embrace your independence.

If you really want someone to walk you down the aisle even if it just so you don't have to walk on your own have you got any close friends (they don't have to be male!) who you could ask or I am not sure if you kids but if you do thats always an option.
Depending how my little brother is next year I may be asking him to walk me down the aisle. You don't have to do anything for the sake of tradition, it is yours and your partners day
Katy
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fuzzy_sweets · 19-12-2010, 10:18 PM

Aw cool. Well I really don't think i know anyone who i would actually 'want' to give me away, as 1/2 my family don't even approve of the wedding. And i would rather nobody give me away then people paint false smiles on their faces and have all airs and graces. My fiances family ony the other hand are more supportive.
Don't have any children either. Think i might just give myself away as a symbolic status that i am married to my God (i'm a Christian) and now I will be joined with my husband. As he (God) has been the closest thing i have had to a father. Cheesy i kno! lol
Aw thanks so much guys i realise now that i was more bothered about what people would THINK of me giving myself away rather than what I actually want.

Popple · 19-12-2010, 11:14 PM

I don't think thats cheesy I think if it fits with your beliefs then that is a loverly ideas :) I hate how there are so many silly traditions and beliefs about weddings that you are expected to follow, I think weddings should be about the couple getting married and what they want and if they want to follow every tradition then thats their choice but if they don't want any of that same goes :)
If anyone winges at the idea of you giving yourself away tell them if they don't like it then don't come. It has worked wonders on my family lol

Laura2.0 · 20-12-2010, 12:43 AM

I like the idea of giving yourself away, because it shows independance.

Casper_Fading · 20-12-2010, 07:06 AM

My brother and sister-in-law walked down the aisle together :)

Popple · 20-12-2010, 09:30 AM

^ Awh I think that is really cute.

Casper_Fading · 20-12-2010, 10:07 AM

It was really nice :)