hi all

che che · 30-11-2010, 11:47 AM

hi all x needed to get all this out I HATE CHRISTMAS !!!!!! i cant say that to anyone cos people look at u like u have 3 heads !! wot is there to like loads of shity memories of adults drinking then becoming abusive , hiding in my room and now im older im expected to enjoy it and stay stuck in house with my control freek of a mother and my husbands family ( who r ok but enough after a couple of hours ) i just want to run away and let it pass ..... i have done ok the last couple of weeks but now its christmas christmas christmas everywhere and im losing it i cut last nite to relive some strain but my head is spinning and i feel sick all because of that one stupid day i dont know wot to do i know no one can help but its just good to get it out

Margo · 30-11-2010, 01:22 PM

Hey, i hate Christmas too and that really hurts. I used to love it and i know i should love it but i dont.

There is no way you are going to enjoy time with your mother so dont try and force it because that will just make you feel worse. It will also aggravate things. My suggestion is to simply accept she will be controlling on that day, expect the worse and take anything other than complete madness as a bonus :)

Try to focus on just a few positives if you can. Perhaps there are people you like that will be there? Perhaps you enjoy giving and can focus on that? Perhaps you can see friends?

Not a lot of use but i do relate and its not easy. Its not worth harming over though.

pea soup · 30-11-2010, 02:10 PM

hi there,

sorry about my christmasy sig and all. i try my hardest to feel the cheeriness of christmas. i still go through the motions...but i do understand your feelings.

i have a son who hasnt lived with me since he was 5 and is now 13. my joyful christmases left with him. i do see him but never on christmas day.

i also feel like we are almost forced into christmas these days, with it everywhere you look. but you dont have to take part if you dont want to.

and just for you...
"bah humbug" :P
loves.
xxxxx

Merc · 01-12-2010, 02:23 AM

I have no advice, sorry. Can only repeat that you arent alone in feeling this way.
I hope it passes as peacefully as possible for you.
xx

lizliz · 07-12-2010, 05:13 AM

I'm not the biggest fan of Christmas either... or any holidays for that matter... I'll have to go "home" from college to see my family...and the result is never great.... but I can only hope it'll be okay this time rather than awful... but yeah... Holidays suck.... They're harder than other days of the year.. :/ I don't really have much advice...just try to make it through the best you can.