Conflicting Irrational Thoughts.

makedamnsure · 08-10-2010, 12:19 PM

I was just filling in a questionnaire for a Psychology survey and it made me realise how conflicting mine (and probably many others) thoughts are.

For example one question was:
"Does a persons worth depend on how successful they are?"
Obviously not.

Further down:
"Does your worth depend on how successful you are"
Yes.

Anyone else have really irrational thoughts/double standards when it comes to themselves or others?

Perhaps it would help to be able to remember that we don't judge others as harshly as we do ourselves.

Adril · 08-10-2010, 01:14 PM

I have way to many irrational thoughts at the moment about everything. Kinda like you I would have answered exactly the same. I feel like I expect more from my self in order to move im not useless completely...

crazykat · 08-10-2010, 01:20 PM

Yes I have these conflicting thoughts too, it's like if the same thing were to happen to someone else I don't see them as bad but for the same situation I view myself as bad. I think when your self-worth is that low though you find it hard to recognize that you are worth just as much as anyone else.

Too Shy · 08-10-2010, 01:55 PM

I agree, I am often a lot harsher on myself and my own thoughts than I would be of other people. I suppose we focus so much on ourselves and our reasons for doing things and on every little mistake we make, whereas with other people you don't consider it so much, it's easier to be self-critical than it is to be critical of other people.

It is interesting though, and I think it's helpful to challenge those irrational thoughts sometimes.

Kitkat :) · 09-10-2010, 12:16 AM

I am like that as well. I think, for example, that smoking and taking drugs is really disgusting and whenever I see other people do it I think it's just horrible. But I do it. And I have other examples, but I can't really think right now. Just want you to know that you're not alone though.

Rynn · 09-10-2010, 04:01 AM

I was actually thinking of this earlier today. Realized the same thing - it's like there's this standard that I have in my mind. There's a standard for everything and there are other people who fail it too - but they always have some other quality that lets them pass. Like 'Hannah' who is over weight - but I don't even think about that often because she is Good. She's a yellow smiley face sticker and 400 hours volunteer work. She is enthusiasm and optimism. That makes her Good. And 'Kate' gossips and can be self centered, but she is thin and gorgeous and athletic and well liked and some how that makes her pass the standard too. Me, on the other hand… I never pass my standard. It's not like it's some defined thing, it's just a constant sense of not being good. Of failing and being the worse, and being bad, and it being so OBVIOUS that I am bad…

Yeah, I know what you mean about double standards.

Sentient Treacle · 09-10-2010, 07:35 AM

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Originally Posted by makedamnsure

Anyone else have really irrational thoughts/double standards when it comes to themselves or others?

Yes I really do. It's something I used to talk about with my psychologist quite a bit, I had a firm belief I was a bad person although I said that deep down nobody was really wholly a bad person, yet I was. So I relate to what your saying.