Graphic - Why does everyone come to me when they need help ! What about me =/

[Born Survivor]

Why do people only talk to me when they want to SH or having problems with there ED or they down etc =/ .. I no this sounds horrid but im kinda sick of it.. Its happened tonight.. I came online and boom i got bombared with 2 people that only talk to me when they want someone to listen to them and want a shoulder to cry on..

What about me huh ? (I no im being selfish but its how i feel).. I have well i think a eating disorder and for me every day is a struggle.. i have reall urges to exerise all of the time while eating the same amount. I hate how i look and i just wanna be normal

I just wanna go online and have a normal conversation with someone ? (Is that being selfish) I struggle to help people when i have down days .. When i say to people sorry i cant help today because i feel down .. They think i dont care and im being rude ... URGG just because i cant be there all of the time doesnt mean i dont care !

Cant they see that all there sadness can affect me .. Im trying to feel better about myself and when i have to support loads of people i struggle to .. It just drains me =/


Sorry this was a bit of a rant .. Anyone got any advice ?

[freefall]

hunni your not selfish i can totally understand,
just tell them in a nice way u dont feel like talking about seriouse issues your having a hard time at the mommentt if u wanna chat about your issues im just a pm away
hugs tc

[livelaughlove]

Its difficult I know, but at least its nice to know you are a source of comfort for people.
How about taking a 'you' day? Where you don't go online or contact people who seek your help, but spend it in a way you enjoy, or trying to work through your own issues.
Oh and you are not being selfish, its human and natural: plus you said yourself its difficult to give advice if your low so helping yourself helps others.

[Horizon]

I can relate to this.
What you need to remember is that your own well-being needs to come before others'. It is not your job to help them, honestly, and they are going to have to learn how to deal with their own issues in their own way without constantly relying on others.

If you don't feel like listening, it is perfectly fine to tell them you don't feel able to listen to that topic, etc. It's not selfish and it's not rude to be honest about how you feel, especially when you have your own stuff to deal with. If that get offended because they feel you aren't only focused on them, that is their problem, and honestly, if you set boundaries early on, it will be healthier for you and it will let them know they can't solely rely on you to help them out all the time.

[C.Sullivan]

First of all, of course you have the right to feel down too. You're a human being with feelings after all!
Also, maybe those people who come to you for advice and for venting don't know the real you. They just know you a shoulder to cry on.. I'm guessing you're a shy, kind person who rathers put other's sake before yourself's. I know it's not easy, but maybe you should love yourself more. People will find out who you really are, and you'll find friends that can support you when you're down , just as you'll support them when they are.
As for your eating disorder, sadly I have no advice about that. Do you have a therapist to talk to about it? A doctor perhaps?
Hang in there x