I don't want to discuss y SI with my family...is that wrong? Besides the fact it is personal, I don't want to hurt them, and a part of me doesn't want there help. Even now that I've relasped I have yet to tell them I started again. I'm going back to therapy at school (well I aiming to, still a little unsure if my college's privacy policy) and I do plan on discussing it with one close frind. I just can't bring myself to talk to my Mother about it or even my Dad who also suffers from depression although not SI.
I know they would be supporitive and I feel a little guilty for not taking advantage of that support when someone people dont have it, but at the same time they will be so over protective/guilty. Idk...I think I'm also afraid they will take over my recovery, I want to be in control of that.
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I hear what you are saying. My mother SI's and she is very open about it, yet I feel like I cannot tell her about my problems. I know that I would have support, but I don't want this to ever be something to discuss with her.
I would certainly take advantage of their support, though, if they know about you. But, as always, support does not always have to be from your family!
It's completely understandable. SIing is a very personal thing, and it's a difficult thing to talk about. If you feel that they would be supportive, you shouldn't worry about telling them - they're most likely just going to be worried about you and want to help.
However, you say you're planning on getting help at school and talking to a close friend - this is good. You're taking steps and getting help, and recovering, which is amazing.. And of course, you'll always have RYL when you need it. :)
You don't have to tell them until you feel ready.
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I get exactly where you are coming from. I never want to discuss SI stuff with my parents. It is just so personal that I don't want to share it with them, and also like you said I don't want them to feel bad.
I think it is perfectly acceptable if you are gettig help elsewhere, and I don't think you should feel guilty. Yes some of us are lucky enough to be able to talk to parents about these matters, but it doesn't mean that you should. It's entirely a personal decision as to whether you talk to her or not.
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My parents know I SI but I don't talk about it with them. As long as you know they're there for you, you can use them if you want to. I wouldn't feel obligated to talk about it with your parents if it's not going to help you
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it's not strange to not want to talk about it, a lot of SIer's don't.. i know i don't want to talk about it, to anyone.
the only person who knows i do it, is my boyfriend and even when he asks i don't like to say anything about it.
SI is very personal to some people and it's completley understandable to be secretive about it.
there's nothing wrong with that.
My mom knows I self harm and when she finds out I've cut (she does morning checks every day -.-) she asks why and why and I'm like "please stop asking me to explain" but she just won't leave it. So I end up shouting and swearing and locking myself up in my room (or if I'm already in my room...wrap myself in my duvet).
