Lately I've been feeling so completely jealous of other people. It seems like everyone is prettier, happier, smarter, and just generally better than I am. I wish my life could be like theirs, I wish I had a personality like theirs.
I have pretty much zero self confidence, and I absolutely hate myself, hate probably being an understatement. When I'm friends with someone I'm constantly worried that they'll find someone else they like better and won't talk to me anymore (I must not be crazy, because it has happened before).
It might be my imagination but it seems like my friends always like my sister better. When they're around her and me they completely ignore me. So when she starts talking to my friends that don't know her yet I get really paranoid that they'll like her better... so I'm really jealous of her too. She's prettier and thinner and she doesn't have depression... and people like her more than me.
I just wish I could change myself completely. But I'll always be stupid and overweight and I'll always loathe myself. I just hate the way things are, and I'm sick of being jealous of everyone else.
Still am sometimes. But luckily I have friends that, although I can't understand why they would be my friend, have stuck around long enough for me to realise that they must at least not mind my company.
The more you compare yourself to others the worse you end up feeling. You are not the same as them, you have your OWN personality, and it is a perfectly ok one.
Sometimes, it sounds a bit nasty, but if you find yourself being jealous of someone, remind yourself of a flaw they have. Like maybe they talk too much. It helps to remember that they are human too, and not perfect.
"Don't waste your time on jealousy, sometimes your ahead, sometimes your behind. In the end the race is only with yourself."
I agree with makedamnsure.
I used to be like that. You just have to keep reminding yourself that you're you, and everyone has flaws.
Maybe if you write down a good thing about yourself everytime you're feeling bad, and then when you start to compare yourself and question yourself, read over all the great things about you.
It helped my selfesteem a lot.
*Hugs*
Hope my advice helped. PM me if you ever want to talk.
xLeah
Stayed up too late and it hurts to breathe
Said it's 4 A.M., girl go back to sleep
Sometimes at night I can hear her dreams;
Hold onto me.
Thanks guys, I really appreciate the support. I know that I should accept the fact that I am flawed, and that everyone else is too, but I've always felt somehow like I need to be perfect. A lot of family issues tie in with that... I just wish I could learn to accept myself for the way I am.
I know how you feel, I used to get like this all the time. I hope that you can find ways to accept and love yourself for who you are one day. You are not alone, take care. xx
I also know how you feel, I have very little belief in myself and always compare myself to others. I always feel im not doing enough, striving hard enough etc.... Looking up stuff like facebook and seeing people who I went to School and Uni with depresses me so so much, they all seem like they are 'sorted' have decent jobs etc...
To try and make myself feel less down I think about or try to remember anyway, that I have had a lot of family **** etc to cope with, essp when I was young and I have got this far... so shouldnt be hard on myself.... Sometimes that just makes me angry with my mum and dead asshole junkie abusive scary dad though....
Didnt mean to rant, know that u are not alone!! xxx
I can totally relate. Your scared people will leave you because they'll find someone better than you. I've actually had that happened before and it's an awful feeling. I'm sorry I can't offer much help, but I'm here for you. :] xxx
i can relate to you completely.. i feel like that a lot. i try not to show it but it eats me up inside and i will come here and rant. there are so many times i wished i could be somebody else, or could be just part of somebody else. especially when this people are close to me, it makes me feel more.... competitive ? i don't know, its like sometimes i just wish people could accept me more and like me more, or i wonder what's wrong with me and why can't i make really really good friends like other people. i want to change myself but part of me keeps telling me to be myself. yet i want to be someone else.
Yes, I've felt jealous of others in the past. But it's easy to forget that everyone has problems and often what you see is simply what they're choosing to present to you.
Nobody is 'better' or more valuable than you are.
"I know that God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much!"
I think we all do, Self Esteem is very tricky. You have to get it back slowly.
However on acount of your sister, is their anyway way you can seperate a little from her & your group of friends?, i guess if she is a twin or in the same year group then thats tricky, but if she is a year or so older or younger can you not get some space? she may actually want some too. Purhaps you can talk with her about that if she hanging around your friends, or maybe you can also make some other friends by meeting people in a club/hobbie your sister dislikes. This may not work for you situation but maybe you get an idea from this.
I have three sisters I know it can be tricky! ;)
I read this quote somewhere & ive always liked it, I hope i dont get done for purgery So quick disclosure <"Its not by me, i dont claim it sorry if im not ment to write it down here">
The Sister Knot
Intence feelings of love, jealousy, protectiveness & exasperation that are the natural result of having a sister
I can completely relate.
My sister's more outgoing, more upbeat, and, in my opinion, more interesting than me. It's hard when I can see that people prefer her to me, but then I just remind myself: I shouldn't have to be compared to her. If they can't see beyond her, then they're not worth my time.
In all honesty, that doesn't always work, but it's a start. I just have to learn to become more comfortable and confident with myself, and then things might change. Maybe the same might hold true for you?
Feel free to PM me if you want.
oh non-believer, please believe me.
is there honestly nothing in this world
that keeps you living & breathing?
you're a ghost in your own
goddamn city.
Oh yes, me too. I used to hate leaving two friends alone incase they got on better with each other and decided they didn't need me anymore >_>
However, it has changed with time and certainly as I grew up and made new friends they helped to install some confidence in me (not that I don't still get very jealous from time to time) the thing is, they do too! The people I have been jealous of get jealous of others! It's something seemingly very common.
Can you try focussing on some strengths about you? I know you called yourself stupid but you seem pretty intelligent to me - at least insightful, which is such a great skill. Focus on some of the good things about you, if you're up to it maybe ask friends or parents for some good qualities in you, or have a think yourself. It might help to see a list (Scroll down this page) and see which ones fit you.
Don't give up on yourself. You can get past this and feel better about yourself.
Im not quite the same but thought Id share this anyways, I get really jealous of other people being able to wear like singlets or even Tshirts with clean skin and no scars. They are so beautiful and Im so jealous of them.
