I'm so frustrated....

[Patti]

I'm so stressed and frustrated. We've been going to Brian's parents about your weekend. It's a hour away. Brian's dad is an insensitive know-it-all. His mother is so negitve. Dont get me wrone. They can be nice. And, I do enjoy visiting his mom.
But, alot of the time, I get my feelings hurt. And, sometimes get really triggered.
I use to work in community mental health. I was a Residential Assistant. I worked with developmentally disabled. They usually had behavioral problems. I was even promoted to assistant supervisor. Also, I've worked as a medical assistant.
But, Brian's dad dismisses anything And, acts like I'm stupid. It's pretty hurtful. There are so many incidents, I can't post all of them. It would be a huge post.
I did come to the realization that I don't need his validations of my accomplishments. But, it still hurts.
Sorry, for all the whining. I just needed to vent.

Patti

[nuclearnight]

*hug*

I never know how to deal with such relatives, but keeping you in my thoughts. I hope the weekend is as stress-free as can be expected and you manage to get some space to yourself here and there even while you're away.

Let us know how it goes...

[PhoenixAshies]

My grandmother can be the same way. Very negative and pessamistic, and anything I do that I view as an accomplishment she tears apart and puts down. She can be very frustrating and depressing to be around!

When they start, can you casually steer the topic elsewhere, to something more upbeat and pleasent? Or, if it just gets to be too much, could you and Brian go run an errand or head out for a little alone time to decompress?