im furious

Raven · 29-06-2010, 08:11 PM

at my fiancé.

he started drinking at 10.30am this morning. he drank all day until he was a gibbering mess on my couch. he was loud, obnoxious and he was coming out with vile things, lots of swearing etc. all in front of our daughter too.

i have actually filmed about 6 minutes in total on our digicam and i will be showing him it tomorrow. i ended up having to escort him to bed. he nearly fell down on the way there.

hes a mess. i bought 2 cases of guinness yesterday as i knew he wanted a couple of cans when he came back from a long, tiring 6 days away from home. but those 2 cases have gone, as has a case of stella. i had a few out of the guinness and stella but not a lot, im not drunk and i wasnt drunk last night.

nearly 6 years i have put up with his alcoholism. now its getting to the stage i am going to have to leave him if things dont change. this is the first time i have felt compelled to film him behaviour because of how bad he was acting. he was just babbling utter nonsense, none of what he said made ANY sense.

it ended basically when i told him he was to get his arse in bed before i kicked the crap out of him because i do not believe a 2 year old should see her father in that state.

i just want to cry

ihaverabbits · 03-07-2010, 02:51 AM

you are an adult. if you choose to put up with this, that is your decision. but your child depends on you. i agree, no kid should see a parent (or anyone for that matter) in that condition.

this is just my opinion, and i don't know your whole situation, but if he isn't willing to shape up, maybe it is time to ship out, for the sake of the little one, if not just for your own sake.

PhoenixAshies · 03-07-2010, 07:30 AM

Oh, hon. I'm sorry you and your daughter are going through this.

Have you and your fiancé ever gone to any kind of counseling / therapy together? Or, if he doesn't seem to think he has a problem, perhaps you could gather friends and loved ones and have an intervention of sorts? That way, you can air your concerns in a non-confrentational way while still sending the message that his behavior is concerning and needs to change.

I'm thinking of you and your family. I hope that everything works out for you. *hug*

hycan · 03-07-2010, 09:49 PM

I'm sorry for what I am about type but why did you enable him by buying alcohol? If he wants to drink it is his call, why did you buy so much alcohol? Six years is a long time to put up with someone drinking so much. I am saying this as my dad is an alcoholic and my mum never left him so for 27 years I have put up with my dad doing similar things and saying horrible things and being violent. For your own sake and that of your daughters you need to try to step away. It doesn't mean you don't love him but that you need to protect yourself! I have been through this I know it's not that easy nothing is black and white.

Margo · 05-07-2010, 02:41 PM

So what happened? did he see the vid?

Mandimoo · 07-07-2010, 03:16 PM

if you've put with so much of his alcoholism (indicating you see a real problem here) don't have alcohol in the house. at all. if you want to drink go out and buy a drink at a pub, drink it and come home. don't have anything in the house and dont allow him to bring it in either.

is he on meds? if so does the alcohol interfere with them?