I know this has been done before but i'm really struggling at the moment to decide whether or not i should start covering up. See i am happy to have my scars on show even though they are numerous and obviously self inflicted.
BUT my mum was talking to me the other day and she was like 'i dont' care if you're comfortable with it. It's shocking for other people' and she made me feel really ashamed like i'm upsetting everyone else by having my scars on show, but i dont see it like that really. The way I see it is most people are more bothered about themselves than about me and if people notice (which they obviously will) they'll look then get on with their day. It's not that big a deal to most people.
I dont know..
What do you guys think?
should i be ashamed?
should i cover up?
I don't think most people notice tbh as you say people are more bothered about themselves :p
If you are comfortable showing your scars then do so, i have scars on my arms they're not very noticable but i can see them, i wear short sleeves cause they're never going to go away and i don't want to wear long sleeves for the rest of my life :)
I don't wear short skirts/shorts without tights i have a lot of noticeable scars on my thighs im still self concious about this
but it's totally up to you i tihnk :)
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it varies from person to person as to how you feel about your scars. personally, i'm far too embarrassed to show off any part of my body that i've cut. it's completely up to you though. :)
You don't need to be ashamed of your scars - so many people are uncomfortable with supposed 'blemishes' in their appearance that if you're comfortable with your scars I think it's great. And you're right that most people don't notice or don't bother to remember seeing other people, let alone scars on them.
My mum's like yours though; always guilt tripping me about my SI and the scars it leaves and how everyone thinks she's a bad mother when they see my arms.
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You shouldn't be ashamed, and if you don't want to cover up, don't. Obviously there are some situations its more appropriate too, like around children or whatever. I've been showing my scars for years (they're not particularly bad, but they're quite noticable), and its very rarely I get comments, or even looks. Its a part of me and if people can't deal with it, its their problem, not yours. But you're right, its really not that big a deal to most people. So if you're happy with showing them, go for it x
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I don't cover mine. Actually most people don't notice. I even have one friend who drunkenly told me "they're sexy as h*ll". F everyone else. Do what liberates you.
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I used to be really ashamed of mine and covered every single one of them. This year however I've been able to wear shorts and t-shirts because I just don't care about most of them anymore. I used to do competitive trampoline so I had no choice about having them visible and I've just gotten comfortable with them. The only ones I still cover are the ones on my wrist because they are still to obvious.
If you are comfortable, do it. You shouldn't have to cover p just to make other people more comfortable with themselves!
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It's pretty much impossible for me to cover mine, because I can't stand long-sleeved shirts and my work uniform requires short sleeves. Most people actually don't notice mine, since it's not like people spend their time staring at my arms.
Those who do notice will take almost any excuse I make up. I don't like people to know something so intimate and vulnerable about me.
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If my mum asked me to cover my scars because other people will find them shocking I'd tell her that if they do thats their problem.
You're all right in commenting that most people won't notice; the amount of times I've walked down a busy street and people have been so busy/caught up in their own lives they haven't noticed me at all, let alone my arms, is a hell of a lot.
It's all down to personal choice; if you want to wear shorts and/or t-shirts that reveal your scars then theres no real reason why you shouldn't. Go for it I say.
I show mine off. I don't really get comments. Ive had a few of my dad
"Oh stayci there f-ing bad them" Hmm nice :/
And people I work with have asked "Cat or dog"
But my friends arnt really that bothered. I don't think most people tend to even noitice them tbh But it is up to you. Just don't let what you mum said choose you desision for you xxx
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I think if you're comfortable with it, that's great - it's a part of who you are and you don't need to be ashamed of that. Most people probably won't notice anyway - they'll be more concerned with how they look!
Personally I don't really have many scars - they're only noticeable close up. If I have old cuts/scratches I will wear short sleeves at training sometimes when they're fading, but not if I'm around the kids there and not if I have new marks.
In my personal opinion I think you should do what you want to do, it's good you feel able to have them on show. Your mum ovbiously doesn't understand, which most parents don't. Do what you want to do along as you feel comfortable :) x
With me its only being bery recently i have started not to cover up. I used to really want to wear what i wanted to wear and one day.. Actually it was last week after i saw my CPN it was avery hot day and i was boiling so i just decieded to take my jacket off. I have down before, but then i would cover right up if someone was coming but now i dont really care their are some problems like i will still cover up for my family, close friends who dont know i sh. Though i did not really cover up at yard and people either did not notice or kept it to themselves.
. See i am happy to have my scars on show even though they are numerous and obviously self inflicted.
I think thats the most important line, you are happy with it, you shouldnt be ashamed, and you shouldnt be made to feel ashamed.
People can stare and ask questions but its none of their business and its not like you are showing fresh cuts or anything. if you are ok with it, then dont let people change that. You havent done anything wrong, and your brave for wearing your scars out xxx
Btw. I dont actually show my scars, it would mean people who i know finding out, but i think maybe i will in front of strangers if they faded some more and it was hot.
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if your not ashamed and are comfortable with it than dont be afraid to show them!!
i show them to. its not someones right to judge me, you, or anyone else when they see scars..
in my opinion, scars and perminant reminders that my pain was real.
we are all human and we all make mistakes. but i dont think anyone should be ashamed about them.
dont do anything you dont wanna do. if your comfortable with your scars dont hide them just because others want you to.
I have been alternating between covering and not. I don't feel comfortable enough to show them to my family and the other day I decided not to cover when I was out with my friend but I saw her staring at least once. A lot of people stare and it just makes me feel a little self conscious.
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No offense to your mom, but she really shouldn't have a right to have such an opinion seeing as how she isn't the one with the scars on show in the first place. If you want to show your scars, you have every right to. I live in Arizona, I have no choice but to wear exposing clothing in the summer when it's 113 on a good day and you know what? I never get bothered by other people about my scars. They don't even notice them most of the time. I say go for it if it's what YOU want.
