Ok i wasnt sure where to post this, so i gess tis is the place. I really want to tell my mom i self harm, but i have no idea how to bring it up. I want to bet better and go to counsiling or therapy. Im so sccard to bring it up she wont under stan. I can here her in my head . Why would you do that to your self, whats wrong with you, people will think its my fult! oh my gosh what will i do with you. Im so scard and she wont understand triggering eather. I hate it but i cant stop. Can someone help or give som advise.
I don't know if you've ever felt like that. That you wanted to sleep for a thousand years, or just not exist, or just not be aware that you do exist, or something like that. I think wanting that is very morbid, but I want it when I get like this. That's why I'm trying not to think. I just want it all to stop spinning.
Telling your mom is a very big step, but it's also a very positive step too.
If you can, can you write it down & give it to her?
How is your mom with you? Is your relationship good? Why do you feel she'll react that way?
A lot of the time, parents react in those type of ways because they're concerned for you, worried, scared, angry, upset, confused, etc, a range of emotions, because they love you & care about you, they probably feel helpless too.
These range of emotions may come across verbally very angrily, & they'll say things that they don't mean, but this comes from ignorance & not understanding this, though that doesn't excuse what they say/do.
You could get a self harm booklet for her, & she could try to understand more, so then she'll be able to support & help you a lot better.
She may react completely differently to how you imagine she will, she could react in a very caring, loving way, it's 50/50, you'll never know until you give it a chance, give her a chance.
I'm proud you want to get better & go to counseling/therapy, this is awesome!
The next step is doing it, this is a very hard step, but I know you can do it & I know it may feel so difficult, but it's for the best, it's for you, to get you on the right track.
I can't really better Sarah's great reply up there. ^
I just wanted to say that when I eventually told my parents about my depression [not self harm, but my parents are of a much older generation, as am I] they were far more understanding and supportive than I imagined they would be. Our expectations can be borne more of our own insecurities, and that can limit how much we feel we are in actual fact loved by those around us.
One thing I find helpful, when I'm telling someone something raw and vulnerable about myself, is to phrase it in terms that they can understand, it's hard to describe, but use your knowledge about your mum to consider how you approach what you say, what she might best understand about when she's felt emotionally overwhelmed, for example. Like say she sometimes gets angry and sort of out of control, e.g. "You know when you get really annoyed about .... and want to throw things, well, sometimes when I'm feeling ... I don't know how to handle my feelings, and so I hurt myself. I want help to overcome this, and I need your support so that I can get some counselling or therapy." That kind of thing.
