Thinking of telling

LittleKitten · 11-04-2010, 11:23 AM

As the title says, I'm thinking of telling. My reasoning is that soon I will be entering a time where I will, quite probably, be triggered quite badly, and when that is over I have about two months before entering a time where I will be triggered repeatedly over about three months. The person I'm thinking of telling will definitely be around when I go through the time i'm expecting to be badly triggered, and will most likely be around for the three month time period.
But, I'm not sure if I should. I mean, lately I've been triggered quite badly and so I'm pretty sure I need the help, especially with these things coming up, but it's a big risk and I'm not sure what the reaction will be.
Anyone have any advice on how to tell her? I'm thinking of starting off small and playing it by ear. Like mentioning a story about self-harm or something and going from there. If she reacts badly at any point I will back off and leave. What do you think?

Ampelmann · 11-04-2010, 01:38 PM

I think it's great that you are thinking ahead and trying to put measures in place that will help you get through. I hope she reacts ok and feels she can help you. x

xgx · 11-04-2010, 01:59 PM

i think that you have the best idea by just starting of a little bit. even if you say that you have this friend who self harms and your not sure how to help them.And then this person might say something like well if it were my friend ....
x

makedamnsure · 11-04-2010, 03:13 PM

Good luck. I absolutely think you are doing the right thing by telling someone. xx

DontLookUp · 11-04-2010, 03:51 PM

Hey, i think its great you want to tell someone, especially if you are going to be triggered a lot. Maybe start of just by mentioning self harm generally and see her reaction, basically what you said i think that would be a good idea. xx

LittleKitten · 12-04-2010, 09:26 AM

Urgh, I didn't do it. I was going to, right up until I walked up and opened my mouth. Instead, I ran to a bathroom and SIed...probably not the best replacement. God I'm such a freak, I can't even talk to someone without losing my head. I feel so invisible, people look right through me without noticing I'm there, or skip over things I say. Loser, freak, reject. They don't say it but I know it's what they're thinking.

makedamnsure · 12-04-2010, 01:12 PM

Hey, its ok. Its difficult to tell anyone. The only people that know about mine are people that I wanted to tell but couldn't so I "accidently" let them see recent cuts instead but I don't advise that as a method.

Could you write this person an email? Or even a text message? Then once it is sent theres no way to back out. Who is it you want to tell? How do you think they will react?

Successful.Failure · 12-04-2010, 06:14 PM

Don't beat yourself up over it; telling someone about SH is one of the hardest things to go through. I understand you're afraid of the reaction that will come of it, but I've learned from experience that you'll never know a person's reaction to something like this until you jump in and tell them. Scary I know, because fear of the unknown is one of the most powerful fears to conquer. Best of luck to whatever you decide to do <3