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Old 17-03-2010, 05:46 PM   #1
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It hurts

My heart hurts.
It really hurts.
Aches.

The loneliness.

Not being a child leaning on mother, not being a partner leaning on her man. I have no man, and I am no longer a child.
No one I can lean on physically, to be tenderly affectionate with me.
It aches.
It hurts.
So much.

Please can I have a hug? Please?
Empathy and understanding would help too, please.

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Old 17-03-2010, 08:10 PM   #2
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I can relate.
I'm really sorry that your loneliness is so painful at the moment, though.

I don't know if you have pets, but I can personally attest to how much they can help. I am a 'dog' person, but cats can be extremely affectionate too. I know it's not the same as having a partner, but having physical contact with an animal, aswell as all the other joy they give you, can be extremely comforting. If you get a dog, you meet other dog-owners too, and can make new friends.
Just something to consider.
In the meantime, have you got a friend you could ring, just for somebody to talk to?

Take care.



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Old 17-03-2010, 09:05 PM   #3
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I agree with what Ange said... I can empathize too - although I am not single now, I remember when I was, and it hurt like all hell to see "everyone else" with his/her significant other.

But you're not old. You're NOT. You may feel it, but you aren't. There is still time. You're a lovely, beautiful person, inside & out, and I think that there "should" be someone out there for you who would appreciate that.

I will keep you in my thoughts... am here if you ever need to talk. *gentle hugs*



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Old 17-03-2010, 10:00 PM   #4
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Furry therapy is definately a good idea - I had rats! Though its not always wise to choose an animal with a short life span, as 3 years later I was devestated. So cat/dog are definately a good idea.
You will find that someone special to hug when the time is right for both people involved. Please have faith in that. Otherwise if you just hug anyone, even then the hug can be empty, and believe me it hurts so much to be feeling lonely when actually surrounded by people. Loneliness is awful, but it is not an incurable illness, it won't always be this way. Please don't give up. Until things start happening for you in the 'real' world, just remember that we are all here to give you a hug and support and encouragement for as long as you need it.
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Old 18-03-2010, 09:02 AM   #5
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Thank you.

I just... have so much to work through, to heal still.

Unfortunately can't currently have a pet - and I would have a cat - as my flatmates' son is allergic.

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Old 19-03-2010, 08:26 AM   #6
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hi Katie,

its been a while since ive been around so im quite behind on whats been going on with everyone.

im just wondering.....would you like to have a relationship with a man? or maybe just a companion that you could spend time with?

i agree that pets are amazing at helping get through lonely times. also, im in a loving relationship but it doesnt always take away the lonliness.

i wish i had something better to say.
thinking of you.
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Old 19-03-2010, 04:50 PM   #7
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Thank you. :)

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Old 16-04-2010, 10:10 AM   #8
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*hugs*

I know how you feel. I have no one to lean on either. And I know how that ache inside you can be so overwhelming sometimes. I was almost crying on my way into work this morning. I don't even know how I'm going to make it through today. I don't think I have the will to keep up my usual act. I just want to curl up somewhere and cry.





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Old 18-04-2010, 08:56 AM   #9
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*hugs Katie* I know too well how you feel. I am the same age, I am now single, my parents are alcoholics so not the most loving, giving people on the planet. You're right we aren't children any more, but to be honest I still feel like one a lot of the time.

I don't often have much advice to offer you, as I think you are far wiser than I, but just so you know I always follow where you're at and feel for you.

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