simple question really but ive noticed in a couple of threads lately that people seem to be really split on how they make them feel so it made me wonder. for me i love my scars, its that simple. id never get rid of mine and i hate it when they start to fade. i know sometimes it can be awkward if someone you dont know sees them but in the end my scars are for me, so why should i care what anyone else thinks.
Depends upon my mood. Sometimes they reassure me I'm still human, each one has its own story and it grounds me in my past and reality. On the other hand I hate despise it when people see them and ask questions, it's something immensely personal to me and I don't like sharing it.
Some men aren't looking for anything logical, like money.
They can't be bought, bullied, reasoned or negotiated with.
Some men just want to watch the world burn.
I don't like them at all but their a part of me. I wish I could change that but I can't so I've learned to love them minus the akward questions/stares.
They are, and have been severely limiting my life in terms of what I can wear, what jobs I can work due to uniform etc.
They itch, they are unsightly, and to me, my own scars are just very ugly. That being said I don't find scars in general ugly, just my own.
If I could make them all disappear, I would. I don't 'Wear them with pride', I wear them with shame because I couldn't deal with my own **** in a better way, at the time.
On a long enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero.
I hate them. I really can't stand them, I'm so ashamed of them.
I just, can't understand how I would ever be proud of them. All they show is that I couldn't cope with my feelings in a healthy, positive, 'normal' way. And the sad thing is, I don't even remember the reasons behind most of them.
Not saying it's a good way to be, mind. I guess I'd like to learn to accept them one day.
Well, if I'm having a particularly fat day, then the ones on my legs are disgusting to me, however most of the time they don't bother me. I like the ones on my arms/wrist though.
For me they kinda remind me that what I went through was real. I did have a really bad time when I caused those scars, it's not just something I've imagined. The dermatillomania scars on my face are horrible, but don't care about the ones on my legs.
Good question though will bei nteresting to see how the results turn out!!
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And you're my obsession, I love you to the bones...
The way I feel is a bit more complicated than like/don't like.
They are a fundamental part of me, as is my mental illness. I would not be the person I am today without them; I probably would not be alive. They remind me of what I have been through and that pain is not something to be afraid of.
HOWEVER
Although I now swim and wear t-shirts and shorts as if they weren't there, I do feel ashamed sometimes and there are instances when I still cover them up. I only show them to close friends and some family. There is still a stigma attached to self harm, and I also don't think it's professional. Life would be easier without them.
There are, it has been said, two types of people in the world. There are those who, when presented with a glass that is exactly half full, say: 'This glass is half full'. And then there are those who say: 'This glass is half empty'.
The world belongs, however, to those who can look at the glass and say: 'What's up with this glass? Excuse me? Excuse me? This is my glass? I don't think so. My glass was full! And it was a bigger glass!
I love mine. In fact a major reason for my cutting now is for more scars. But it does make some situations awkward. I WANT a visible reminder of my pain. To remind me its real. And I get jealous of other peoples scars even if they are not SI related.
But I do wish that only i could see them!! So I can wear what I want and no-one will bother.
No one can see the pain that we hide, they're happy for us to keep it inside, our fear is our own; they don't want to know. Why should we involve them; why should it show.
