pissed off/rant - mentions alcohol.

discovery_journey · 15-03-2010, 02:31 AM

got out of hospital today on condition that my Dad would be with me to take me over to France to stay with him and Mum for a bit.

Nice. Yep, that's the theory.

OK. Am 36, may be I shouldn't need my Mum and Dad in the way I do, but what I can certainly do without is my Dad getting pissed and passing out on the sofa and me having to wake him up at 1am to get him to go to bed.

I'm not feeling great and I can't talk to him for support cos he's bloody plastered and now in bed. I don't think anything would wake him now and even if it did he wouldn't be coherent enough to talk to me.

It's not like it's a one off either. He regularly drinks a bottle of wine a night, if not more. Hmm. Not that much, I hear you say? The guy had a stroke two years ago... he shouldn't really be drinking at all.

Ah, f*ck it. Who gives a sh*t anyway?

elephant poo · 15-03-2010, 02:39 AM

Me.... I give a sh*t.

You don't need to be dealing with your dads problems, when he is meant to be helping you with yours. Anyone in your position would be annoyed. Sorry, I'm not to good at this advice malarky, just wanted you to know your not on your own.

discovery_journey · 15-03-2010, 08:38 AM

thanks EP.
still feeling a bit narky about this this morning.
hmm. not sure if i'll mention it to dad.

bleedingdragon · 16-03-2010, 12:23 AM

Im sorry that youve had to go through that i do understand what its like to be in your situation. Its not fair on you on coming out of hospital you expected your dad and mum to be there to support you and listen to you when you might need to talk to them.

I hope you can and i hope you can talk to your mum if its hard to talk to your dad.

I also understand you saying you shouldnt need your parents because your 36 but at this moment having them to support you is important, im 44 and in charge of my own life but i guess still having parents trying to care about me is a good thing im lucky i have my brother he is more supportive.

Your right you shouldnt have had to wake your plastered dad to get him to bed, it should be the other way around that your dad was there to support you. Maybe he doesnt know how to cope with what your going through, my dad certainly didnt know how to deal with me and our relationship was stormy.

My dad does exactly the same although he is now in spain my parents moved there in 2000 my dad still drinks heavily 1 to 2 bottles of wine a night and wisky often staying up until 1-2am in the morning until he falls asleep downstairs. Your right your dad shouldnt be drinking that much i hope you can manage to talk to him about it and ask him to support you more .

I struggled with my parents getting them to understand my depression and suicide attempts and self harm, they still dont now , i didnt find out why he drinks so much .

people here do give a ****.

Dave