Just pondering...

[bella54]

DO you ever wonder how other people cope with things? I was just thinking about it the other day. Results came out and my friend did really really bad which is going to be very hard to recover from to get into his chosen uni. he has family issues with his parents splitting up and his girlfriend is anorexic. He has SO much to worry about and i really cannot comprehend how people cope with that kind of worry and other over-whelming feelings. I know SI is wrong and i know other ways of coping are so much more healthy and for little issues i can usually go along with those but having everything bundled on me i just cant take. Even if i had got poor results i would have burried myself in a hole for a week and beaten myself up and told myself i was useless. I know thats wrong but i cant imagine just "getting over" just like that. I cant forget things...Do you ever wonder what it would be like to be able to go for a run or talk about your problems to your mum and be fine after that and not have to resort to SI?

[Ampelmann]

Yeah, I often wonder how you're 'supposed' to deal with stuff. Most of my friends are as bad as me, just in different ways though.

[DontLookUp]

I do. I dont understand it at all. I fail some exams and i cut. My friend fails some exams and she talks about it. It doesnt make any sense. i dont know why its like that, it doesnt feel like it will ever change.
But i am sure it will, i know it doesnt seem like it, but just try and think positively, and you will someday find a way to cope without SH even if its hard to see that now.
xx

[dark faery princess]

I know exactly what you mean! I think there must be something inside us that prevents us from being able to talk about things properly.

I've actually been free from SI for about a year, maybe a year and a half, but I still have no idea how I'm coping really. Maybe through dermatillomania, which I suppose is still self-harm, and the restricting eating.

I dunno. My counsellor asked me how I cope with things now that I don't SI, but I honestly have no idea. I couldn't answer.

It' weird, cos one of the things that people tell SIers to do is write stuff down, but I'm pretty sure the 'normal' people out there don't feel the need to write every time something bad happens.

I might have a look at some research on this if I ever get the time!

x

[justmeuk]

i wonder about this every single day...makes me feel rubbish cus in my job i deal with people with terminal cancer and it makes me feel incredibly guilty that i cant deal with my seemingly insignificant problems when they deal with all they have to cope with. but then again i think this guilt contributes to alot of my depression and SI.

i guess somewhere along the line we shud have learnt coping skills and i must have just missed out on that xx