It depends a lot on you and your partner. My first time didn't hurt, Second time did a bit but my partner was really helpful and supportive about it. Relaxing definitely helps though. It's definitely nothing to worry about though, it's not unbareable at all. Just a little...uncomfortable. Or that's all it was for me anyway...
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Not a girl, but from what I know I can tell you that it's really not supposed to hurt a lot, if it does you (general you now) are probably not relaxed or turned on enough. Could also be a biological issue, but I don't think that's very common.
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Its usually just a bit uncomfortable, if it hurts i recon you'd need to get him to do some more work before hand. Lots of foreplay and being relaxed should help a lot
It's not unbearable but it will hurt a little the first time when the hymen breaks.
That's not entirely true, I most definitly didn't have a hymen when I lost my virginity (because you all needed to know that :P) and my first time hurt anyway. I think it was the whole putting-something-big-into-something-tight-that-isn't-used-to-having-anything-bigger-than-a-tampon-in-it that hurt. Its more of an uncomfortable pain than a piercing pain, and it doesn't last too long either. I should imagine relaxing does help.
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It didn't hurt for me, just felt a bit weird and slightly uncomfortable. I was a bit sore afterwards but nothing too bad. My boyfriend was great and took things really slowly and gently and being relaxed did help a lot.
On a weird and possibly oversharing side note I couldn't use tampons when I was younger, only started being comfortable using them after I lost my virginity?! :-/ More of a psychological thing than physical I think but anyone else find this?
^ Same but i dont think it was related to loosing my virginity. I think i didnt like the thought of having something up there all day when I was young, lol. I started using them about 3 years after i began periods.
Belle Raven .. relaxing will help because when your anxious all your muscles tense up and contract so it may hurt more. Its normal to be nervous/anxious/excited but make sure you dont feel pressured at all, if you're thinking about having sex
yeah it hurt very bad for the first minute or two and then it didn't hurt at all for me. it is the whole just your body not being used to that cause i don't think i had anything break either. i get a lot of pain now for some odd reason but back when i first did it it didn't hurt that much. relaxing should help.
Or you could do what i did and get horrendously drunk!
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I felt my hymen being torn. Like a very thin piece of skin getting ripped apart. It hurt a lot but it was just the tearing that hurt. My boyfriend going in didn't hurt. The sex didn't hurt, on the contrary, it was tender and thoughtful. That's about all I clearly remember about my first time.
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