Does your family know you self harm? mine keep going on about it, its making so shamed out I try to hide my cuts but my mum puts my top up :( its not like im at baby I know what im doing self harm nothing to do with her :(
Yes my family knows, they caught me tending to my wounds one day.
Try telling your mom politely that it would make you feel much better if she didn't talk about it our pull up your top.
Parents will be parents, there only concerned about you, and probably confused as to why you SI. Don't take it personally, but most parents first reaction to their child SI'ing is "what did I do wrong?"
Again, try asking her not to talk about it or to pull up your top, and maybe a talk about "why you SI" could help too. Just a thought.
no, my family and friends don't know that i self harm. in fact, i only starting talking about my problem on the internet about two months ago. i tend to hide my cuts very well. when i was in high school they did ask about a few cuts and i gave them some excuse. now, i'm a lot more careful. plus, they hardly ever ask any questions.
sorry that you have to go through that. i'm sure that i would feel the same way. i would suggest talking to your mom about it. her heart is in the right place but maybe she could take another approach.
My parents know that I used to SI and almost all my friends know it, too.
Other relatives don´t know about it but I guess that some of them might have a notion because of my armwarmers and long sleeves.
My little cousins have been asking me a lot of questions because of that and I told them that I wear these things because of scars but I think that they haven´t heard about SI, so I guess that they don´t know that my scars are self- inflicted.
By the way, it´s bad that your mum does not accept your privacy and pulls your top up.
Take care,
Judith
I can't control my destiny.
I trust my soul. My only goal is just to be. (Rent)
I'm selfish, inpatient and a little insecure.
I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. (Marilyn Monroe)
my family don't know, my mum is forever commenting about scars on my arm, which are now quite old. 'look at the state of your arms, you look like you cut yourself' has been said before, usually either in a shop changing rooms or some public place. i blame boxes at work. luckily she hasn't seen the ones on my legs. there would be no explanation for them.
In loving memory of Alison.... I'll never know what it was like to be her. But i know what it's like to wanna die. How it hurts to smile. How you try to fit in but you can't. How you hurt yourself on the outside to try and kill the the thing on the inside" Girl Interrupted
Mine found out when I was in hospital. I wish they didn't know.
I agree with Reapers Lament about politely telling your mum not to pull your top up, I know how unconfortable that must make you feel, people have done that to me before.
my mum knows,my college found out and told her. she went mad and just made things worse. she made an appointment for me at my docotors and try toi make me stop i just pretended that i did and she fell for it but then i ended up in hospital and she found out i'd been doing it all that time. my younger sister doesnt really know about ti shes seen them once when i had let my guard slip a little bit and asked what they were i just sed it was the cats.
a few of my friends know, we dont tend to talk about it though only wiht 2 gd mates who just ask me if everything going ok n how my arms r doing if they know i've not been that good. they try not to be too serious about it.
i know what its like when you mum makes you show her, my mum did it the first tiem she found out i dont think she realised how bad it would be.
hugs xx
Theres a little truth behing every just kidding,
A little curiosity behind every just wondering,
A little knowledge behind every i dont know.
And a little emotion behind every i dont care.
My whole family knows, and several of moms friends (she asks them for advice). My friends know. I have shown the scars openly (exept when they are fresh) to talkative people. And of course the ER-people, some shopkeepers and people I pass on the street.
The scars are bad, there is no misstaken what they are. I try not to care, but mostly I'm aware and must cover them up.
I don't know if this is good or bad, but i know that I can't live my life with secrets or lies. I have enough guilt as it is...
my mum knows,my college found out and told her. she went mad and just made things worse. she made an appointment for me at my docotors and try toi make me stop i just pretended that i did and she fell for it but then i ended up in hospital and she found out i'd been doing it all that time. my younger sister doesnt really know about ti shes seen them once when i had let my guard slip a little bit and asked what they were i just sed it was the cats.
a few of my friends know, we dont tend to talk about it though only wiht 2 gd mates who just ask me if everything going ok n how my arms r doing if they know i've not been that good. they try not to be too serious about it.
i know what its like when you mum makes you show her, my mum did it the first tiem she found out i dont think she realised how bad it would be.
hugs xx
if you don't mind me asking, how old were when your college told your parents. if you were 18, i thought they weren't allowed to unless you said they could. maybe i'm wrong. i don't know.
They found out by reading my journal ages ago when I was very depressed and self-destructive. Then I told them recently about the fact that yes, I do have an eating disorder (I was looking for support at the time).
I wish they didn't know about either. It just makes everything harder when they're nagging me to stop. Same with cigarettes. They expected me to go cold turkey from 6 a day in the midst of depression. They don't understand, I'm afraid.
"When I was a little kid, my mother told me not to stare into the sun, so when I was six I did..."
My parents have no idea.I'm really good at hiding it.I'm good at hiding my emotional pain,too,so,they just really have no idea.I have a few friends who know,but only two who hear me talk in depth about it. 4 of my friends know.all of them have done it/are doing it themselves.
"You're in the bathroom carving holiday designs into yourself,hoping no one would find you.But THEY found you,and they took you,and you somehow survived."
No, my family doesn't. I say I wear long sleeves and sweatshirts all the time because I hate my arms. I think they're too hairy or something. Even when it's almost 100 degrees. I don't think they'd ever think I'd do something like SI.
