Everthing going wrong.

[hope51]

Could really do with some suport and hugs at the moment i dunno just some reasurance i guess that things will get better. Everything just seems to be going wrong at the moment, i was trying so hard to get my life back on track and i feel as though i have got no where at all. I managed to convince myself to apply for a couple of jobs and to uni and in the last week i have been turned down for all 3 not one interview.
:( It's knocked me back in a big way espically the uni appliction i kinda saw it as my way out off all this ****. Go to uni get some qualifactions and i didn't even get an interview or a reason why, they just down right declined my application. To top it all off my GP told my on friday that she was going to refer me to the pshyc team cos she thinks i might have a personality disorder first i've heard of this in my 4 years of going there! I thought i was getting better guess not since i have been basically ordered to see the pshyc team. I just feel like i'm never going to be able to get out of this rut i'm in. I don't think i even have the energy to try anymore what's the point i'm getting no where i just want to give up and stay in this room forever, or worse which i wont mention.

[Pierrot]

Don't give up. It is very frustrating and disheartening to be turned down for a job--or worse, for schooling--but try not to let it defeat you. I don't know about where you are, but around here the job market is still down; you may have quite a scratch finding work. The only advice I can really offer there is just keep trying. In the meantime, are there things you can do (volunteer services, correspondence courses, etc.) to improve your prospects and pad your resume a bit?

As for schooling, expect to be turned down many times, even if you are very smart, got good grades in school, had excellent assessment test scores, and everything. In the meantime, depending on what your major is, you might look into taking classes at an accredited online university. And, like with the job market, just keep applying. You have a whole field of options, and you'll be accepted, though it may take persistence.

As for the psych team, best of luck. *hug* I can certainly see how that would be stressful and worrisome. But even if you are prescribed treatment for a personality disorder, at least it will help toward improving your overall condition. How is your support network? Do you have friends, or folks at home, to talk to?

[hope51]

Thanks for the quick reply. Don't really see or speak to any of my freinds anymore kinda lost touch with them all overtime when i was really ill, *sigh* I'm not gettting my family involved in the whole psyc busniess i've put them though enough in the past i couldnt and wont do it to them again. I'm sick of looking for jobs i feel **** cos i'm claiming benifits which i hate doing, there are no jobs going that i'm qualified to do. And now i've been turned down for uni. I just feel so sad.

[Pierrot]

I can only guess how frustrated you must be. It's very hard to keep trying when you're turned down over and over, especially when what you're trying to do is improve your situation and make a go of things. If you need someone to talk to, I'm often online this time of day. I'd be happy to listen if you need an ear.

[Fry]

i think you did really well by applying to the uni and those jobs, it shows you want to make an effort to get things together even if you've been feeling low. i know it's difficult to deal with knock backs like that but try not to get too down about it or take it to heart. the best way to deal with set backs like is to apply for more things. twice as many this time round maybe so you have even more chance.
i heard on the news the other day that more people are getting turned down by universities because there are so many more people applying this time round. it's just a case of not having the space a lot of the time at the moment.
i know how frustrating it is to be on benefits when you have all this potential and inclination to want to do something productive with your life.
as far as the personality disorder, i don't know how a GP could diagnose something like that. did they mention anything more about it like which one you apparently have? [disorder]
if you don't want involvement from the psych services, refuse it. it's a hard system to get out of and won't be beneficial to you if you don't need it, in fact it could be the opposite.
xx

[Sigma]

I'm sorry, it's tough to get so much discouragement at once - but ^ as has been said, the Unis are overwhelmed at the moment (I guess with fewer jobs because of the economic situation - also means jobs are harder to get) that doesn't mean its anything about you and your potential. Have you thought about Open University (if you're in the UK)?. I don't think you have to pay if you're on benefits, and often they structure degrees so you can get a Certificate, then a Diploma, then the degree, so you have proper qualifications as you work towards the degree.

Voluntary work could also help, gives structure, helps you meet new people and impresses employers.

Remember, you are not your diagnosis, you are you. A diagnosis is great if it gets you the help you need, but don't let it define you or pidgeon hole you. The referral could be a good thing - remember GPs aren't specialists, a proper assessment & treatment plan could help more than years of wrong treatment by a GP.

anyway, try not to be too discouraged, it probably feels as if everythings against you right now, but try to keep going

*hugs*

[hope51]

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. Feeling a bit better today about it so that's a plus. Still havn't told my parents though think i'm going to put that off for a few days can't deal with them at the moment and talkng about it. As for the volountering it's a nice thought have looked into it before but i live in the middle of know where so it's not really possible everywhere is too far away espeically when i'm not getting payed for it, i couldn't afford to travel there. Unless something else comes up that is closer. I dunno about the online learning business would have to look into it, kinda defeats the object of me doing anything though cos one of the main reasons was so that i was out the house and meeting other people, (which i was dreading by the way!) I dunno what to do with myself now. It's like i have to start all over again come up with something else, *sighs* And i just don't have the energy to even apply myself to looking at the moment. :(

[MrsNutkin]

I'm so sorry that things are hard for you at the moment; they sound rather hard at the moment.

I can imagine that after knockbacks it is hard to have the energy to keep going. I have experiencing something similar myself.

Sometimes it's really hard and there seems to be little you can do about things as they are out of your control, such as: applying to Uni.

I wish I could help you in some way but unfortunately all I can do is let you know I have read this and that I am here if you want to message me and I do hope things turn around for you soon.

Love
Syrup x

[Sigma]

I grew up in the middle of nowhere, I understand how hard that can be...

Often when you're volunteering they pay travel expenses, so if it's the money that's a problem it would still be worth exploring. And the Open University has tutorials where you can meet other students, and they encourage you to form study groups with other students (which may be less intimidating than a large class?)

Anyway, whatever you decide, I hope things go better for you

[Hannah Montana]

Well done for putting yourself out there and applying for those jobs. In my opinion it takes a lot of courage to apply for anything so don't beat yourself up so much. I think that rejection is just a part of life and that you will find your way eventually. The same thing happened to a friend of mine recently and she got quite depressed about it. About a week later she decided to change her outlook and turn the fact that she hadn't been accepted into an opportunity to take a break. So instead shes going to go travelling instead.

I guess its all about how you decide to take it from here, but I don't blame you for being so upset about it. Good Luck and I hope that you feel better soon :) xxxx