OMG!! its been so hard had alot of urges have fight them done the week like i agreed with someone and have just passed a week going to aim for two weeks hopin i can do this.
Hey this is really really good especially given how much you have been through recently.A BIG WELL DONE CHRISSY and try to keep going!You can do this, girl!
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i do not always manage to be around but i wish you all the very best - love and luck to you all!
not, not a let down. i think it's understandable to feel disappointed, but don't let it olour how you see yourself and this achievement - two weeks was really great, and even though it would be great if we could stop overnight, i suppose that's not really realistic. sorry you hurt yourself last night though, it's not good to want to be doing that, even if we do all know how it feels!
Why don't you try the stone trick? You put a stone or a marble or something in a bowl every day you don't cut. If you do cut you take one out. It can be really helpful if you aren't ready to stop completely but would like to reduce the amount, and it doesn't leave you feeling as guilty as breaking a streak does. It also shows you how one slip up doesn't mean all your work is lost.
Two weeks is really great, by the way. I'm so proud of you for doing that :)
Well done for the 2 weeks, we all have slips sometimes unfortunately, and its never that easy to just "stop". But try to keep up to good work, take it slow and dont let the mistakes get to you :)
And nine that sounds like a really good idea, havent heard that before. Might try that also, with that i suppose you would see that overall there are more stones in the bowl than been taken out (hopefully) and is something to work towards in small stages, not all at once.
I suppose you could try to give yourself some targets also, allow for some slip ups or for it not to always be going ok, but dont let them get you back into old habbits. Like say in the next month, or 40 days...or whatever, i am going to try and cut myself only x amount of times (with less being even better ofc). Try to track it....try to get help or a distracion when you need it. Have the good days when you feel ok, or can get through it, and hace the bad days when its just not that easy, but dont let them knock you back, and on those good days learning coping methods and getting through them may be some steps in the right direction and in improving confidence. Hmm, i dont know whether im just going on or not, and probably not a very good idea or something to advise.....was just something i thought up just now.
I have made smaller goals like Nicole mentioned for myself too. Some things I have promised myself that I would stay away from more dangerous places to cut (hands, wrists & arms.) I have promised to always try a certain distraction before I cut, or to wait fifteen minutes longer than I think I can. My most recent promise to myself was to stop hurting my cuts (I used to put painful stuff in the open wounds, which made them scar more and take longer to heal) and to take proper care of them with antibiotic cream, and proper bandages. For me it has been much more helpful to make easier to reach goals, because I am slowly getting better at controlling my self harm without disappointing myself.
Edit: Oh, and about the stone trick it can actually be a lot of fun. I bought myself pretty stones, the kind you can buy in those velvet bags from gift shops and stuff? They're colorful and polished, and I picked out ones I really liked. I kept the ones I took out in my desk, and got to display the successful ones in a bowl on my desk. No one really thought anything of it because it looked like a nice room decoration, and I would get really excited to pick out which stone I wanted to add for the day. You can also buy those flat marble like things and get like 100 for a dollar.
Yeah the stone thing sound really good, looks like i will have to go get some..
And im glad some of those ideas have actually worked, i really need to start working on that too.
Good luck tinkerbell, hope you are feeling ok today :) and you too nine
