Triggering (Suicide) - Why is suicide so bad?

[Ami]

I dont get it. If we have free will then we should choose when our lives end? And if "its a better place" then whats wrong with that? And we are gonna die someday anyways and when it happens our friends/family whatever are gonna be upset about it?

[Audrey]

Hey, I think there's a great difference between dying of natural causes or maybe an accident than there is making the conscious decision to leave our family and friends.

By choosing that way out it leaves our friends and family with guilt that they could have done something to make our lives easier, it leaves them with that constant question.....why?

Imagine if it was the other way 'round. Someone who you love so dearly does it. How would you feel? Could you forgive them? Could you forgive yourself?

I tried to a few times when I was younger. Knowing what my life is like now, I'm soooo glad that it didn't work. I'd have missed out on the great relationship I'm in now, I'd have missed out on the birth of my beautiful niece, I'd have missed out on the chance of being a parent myself one day...these are things worth living for. Sometimes things are so dark that it feels like there's no way out....but believe me. There is! Talk to whoever you can about it because sooner or later you will find that light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how long that tunnel may be. Remember, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

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[rawfatality]

Its true that people will be upset whenever we die, but imagine if one of your friends died through suicide, wouldnt you spend your life wondering if you could have done something, wondering why they didnt come to you? Thats how all your friends and family would feel and you would be missed terribly. Take care hun *hugs* xx

[Jlynn]

Thats what I think, I dont get it we are all going to past on someday,

[nowhereman]

But your family would think you didn't love them enough to stay with them and you didn't trust them enough to tell them how you felt.
No matter how bad things seem, things can and will always get better. There's always another way and there's always help out there for everyone.
Suicide is a permanant solution to a temporary problem.

[whispers]

Hey,

I can understand how you feel - I can't pretend I haven't thought like that before. But as everyone else has said, losing someone is always hard on the friends and family, but losing someone to suicide is a million times harder. It's incredibly painful to realise that they were hurting so much, you're going to wonder why you didn't know things were so bad, you're going to feel guilty. You're going to feel angry with them for leaving like that, for not talking to you. You're going to wonder what things could have been like if they hadn't chosen to take their own life. It's not something you're ever going to get over properly.

But, it's really not just about how your friends and family will be affected - it's also about what you could be missing out on. Things change, they don't generally stay bad forever. If you killed yourself, you'd be missing out on an awful lot of things. You wouldn't be giving yourself a chance at life. So much good can happen, even after things have been so awful for so long, and it really isn't a good idea to deprive yourself of all the things you could experience. If you killed yourself, you'll never know how great things could have been.

With regards to going to a "better place", there aren't many religions that teach that you'll be going there automatically, particularly if you commit suicide (I'm not saying this is the case, just making a point..). And what if there is no better place, what if this is all there is? Then you won't feel relief, or anything, you just won't exist anymore. So it's really a no-win situation.

Any particular reason you're asking? I hope you're alright, I'm here if you want to talk or anything. Take care,

Hanna
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