So.. i've been harming since I was twelve . For four years. Tried to stop numeous times and failed. I'm finding it really hard to cope with. The school thinks I need to see the doctor and be referred to a specailaist. This is what the school nurse said, but I can't bring myself to book the appointment. My parents don't know about my recent harming , and think i'm attention seeking. If I book it and they find out , It will cause a lot of hassle in the family. Possibly me getitng kicked out of the house. They will kill me. Also , I'm scared. They think I have a mental illness. Do I want to know if I do ?. Would this effect my future ? My university ? My ability to work ?
Does anyone have any answers , I'd be so grateful (: xx
It may not be pleasant ; but it's always possible - Brian Molko ♥
I was filled with incoherence .Theories of conspiracy .The whole world wants my disappearance, I'll go fighting nail and teeth .You've never seen such perseverance .Gonna make you scared of me,'Cause haemoglobin is the key - Placebo♥
If you go and find out that you do have a mental illness, it isn't like that changes who you are, it just means that people can help you cope better. sorry i'm still figuring out school stuff myself... but sometimes people don't react the way you think
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Thank you (:
I suppose , but my parenst found out before , and have said all this so i'm anxious. xxx
And this morning after three weeks , I slipped up :(
Last edited by BeautifulGarbagex3 : 28-12-2009 at 10:52 AM.
It may not be pleasant ; but it's always possible - Brian Molko ♥
I was filled with incoherence .Theories of conspiracy .The whole world wants my disappearance, I'll go fighting nail and teeth .You've never seen such perseverance .Gonna make you scared of me,'Cause haemoglobin is the key - Placebo♥
hey. my school knew all about my self harm (suspended me twice for it), and they were the ones who sent me to see professionals about it, and i am at uni now. as far as i know, schools don't tell unis about that stuff - at least, i'm pretty sure my uni doesn't know! as for work, i've never been asked about mental health stuff, but nor have i volunteered it. even if you did, it's illegal for them to discriminate against you because of it. hope this helped a little. hugs xx
If you do get diagnosed with a mental illness, it doesn't change who you are. A label changes nothing - you are the same person you always have been. It's illegal for a workplace to discriminate against someone due to a mental illness, and it is very, very unlikely that it would affect your ability to work or your university. Application forms may ask about mental health problems, but they cannot discriminate against you for that - the questions just mean they can put in place some strategies to help you if you need that.
Seeing a doctor/counsellor/someone does sound like it might be worth a try - maybe they could help you find some ways to stop self-harming? Is there any way you could talk to your parents about what's going on? Or even just tell them you're going to the doctor for another problem, and go without them?
do it, see the doctors and counselors, what do you have to loose? and think how good it would be to be happy and harm free like all those" normal people" you hear about and see out there.
"Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles" ~Charlie Chaplin
See I would love to see someone ; I really cannot cope anymore , with it.
But my parents found out two years ago - over that.
They think i've stopped. They called me an embarrasment and attention seeking , they believe that people cause mental illness for attention , they wouldn't get how I cannot cope with it and just stop. They'd take eveyrhting away - and watch me constantly ; making it worse again :/
It would ruin everything , that i've built with my family - that 's why I really have no idea what too do anymore :/ x
It may not be pleasant ; but it's always possible - Brian Molko ♥
I was filled with incoherence .Theories of conspiracy .The whole world wants my disappearance, I'll go fighting nail and teeth .You've never seen such perseverance .Gonna make you scared of me,'Cause haemoglobin is the key - Placebo♥
