I used to have a really big lying problem a couple of years ago and then, slowly, got a lot better.
Suddenly, in the last two months or so, I found myself lying again, not about serious stuff, but still more than I'm comfortable with because I don't want to regain that old "habit"...
Does anyone else have problems with compulsive lying? Or am I the only one?
ps: I wasn't sure if this is the right board but it seemed like the right option... sorry if it wasn't.
Maybe taking a few seconds to think and breathe before you speak about the guilt (or whatever it is that you feel) that you will feel if you tell the lie...
Try and think of the consiquence if you get found out.
Perhaps you would like to see yourself as an honest person and take some time thinking about that and how you can take steps towards becoming that person.
You're not the only one to have this problem, you're just the only one brave enough to talk about it here, for which I realy respect you for.
I don't have a problem with compulsive lying, but the advice I'd give from talking to people who do is perhaps trying to stabilise your identity. You are you, you are important and special within your own right and people need to accept you for that, not for things that aren't true. Maybe acknowledge what is real, what is true, to yourself, write it down perhaps.
I sometimes do this. Not like in realtionships and stuff but to my parents.
Its because my mam used to really kick off and shout and make me feel like **** over very small things so its became a habit to not be completely truthful with her because its ingrained in me that she will make me feel so bad.
I dont lie to my bf or friends or people like that. Just mother.
There wasn't really anything to trigger it as far as I can see... I pretty much have my life back on track, or so I thought and then I was just starting to lie about... well, nothing bad just stuff like... who ate the last banana or stuff... but it's a step into the wrong direction...
Rain, that is some seriously great advice, thank you. :) I'll be doing that later.
Olive Branch, thanks for sharing your thread with me, I'll be reading it in a minute.
Ami, that sounds like stuff I've done in the past. I'm so sorry your mom is like that... *hugs*
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*hugs* you are definitely not the only one. I know many people with that problem. the key is to tell the truth about EVERYTHING. Maybe even force yourself to speak up about things you don't want to talk about (within reason), so you practice telling the truth even when you don't want to. then it will be easier to tell the truth when you're not thinking about it.
Also do you know why you lie? Is it because of fear of what people think, or is it more of a control type thing? Because if you get at the feeling behind the behavior, it can help you deal with it better. You could also see a counselor if you don't already.
