is my partner an alcoholic

[kazzie]

Does an alcholic have to be drunk all the time??

My OH has always liked a drink (his father was a big drinker) but recently i have noticed he is drinking every night. Not to the extent of being drunk but enough! He gets wasted once a week and uses the excuse that that weatherspoons do a really nice Cider. He doesnt drink spirits (only when on a bender) and can put away much more than anyone else on a night out.. If i dont drive him to that pub or if he says he would like to go on piss with friends and i say (NO) the atmosphere can be unbearable.. He suffers from depression and is on medication and smokes the bad stuff when he can!! he has a very addictive personality in my opinion. He complains about our bedroom activity but when i try and say that its because i cant stand the smell that of alchohol on him he has a go.(you only have to walk in the bedroom and the fumes hit you!)

Not sure what to do as he says i am being silly and its no different to me having a drink..(i drink 2 glasses of wine a week and go out and socialize with friends once every few months if i am lucky and then i dont drink to the excess that i am falling over or ill, he has really put me off alchohol) Because of this he makes me feel like i am boring!

Any ideas on what to do?
Thanks

[consequential]

WE cannot say whether he is an alcoholic or not by what u r saying.It is obvious you are not compatible in drinking terms .that he drinks more than you.If this is affecting your relationship than you should sit down and talk about it.It sounds like u r finding it difficult enough and it is hard when ur partner drinks more than you do .if the person you love cant come to a compromise ,then you have decisions to make.I was in a relationship where my partner spent every spare minute out drinking,I eventually couldnt stand it and left.Drinking kills relationships.I hope you work it out

[Isoverity]

Can't say he is an alcoholic in the sense that he needs drink vs "simply" abusing it but I would still crack down pronto if I were you. You don't have to take an attitude or throw fits but I don't think you should go along to get along while he degenerates. He has a silent scream inside from being broken and hes self medicating himself away and he could well suck your life away as he he fritters away his. Don't carry on "activity" and support him while he's errant in his ways - you'll make him worse. If he huffs and goes to find someone else consider yourself lucky.

[AMCarmody]

I can't tell you if he IS an alcoholic or not; I can tell you, however, he sounds a lot like my partner. It's difficult, I can tell you that.

Also, I'm here if you need to talk about it, ok? Stay strong sweetie.