Anxiety + relationship issues

[~SuNsHiNe~]

lately ive been feeling anxious and so interpret things with my bf badly (as if he doesnt want to spend time with me, love me anymore) and its completely unwarranted but i still feel that way when i get nervous? any help much appreciated+

[inblack]

I have the same problem.

Over time that has gotten easier with a lot of extra reassurance from my husband. A lot of that did go away when we finally lived together.

One thing you could try is having a talk with him about how you start to feel when you get anxious. Maybe try and make him as understanding as possible? Also challenge what you're thinking as best you can. Like okay I'm feeling like he doesn't love me, is that a reality or am I just getting nervous? You could think of examples of things he does that makes you more sure of his feelings for you and you could also tell yourself to wait until the feeling passes to make a decision about his feelings for you.

Hopefully some of that will help just a bit.