When you're insecure there's not much foundation to protect you inside. Also, when you've been badly hurt once, or repeatedly, it can leave a raw place in your feelings, so that each new criticism rubs it raw. Especially if it's similar to a past rejection or attack.
Actually, I think it's kind of human to be upset when criticised. There's so much in society that tells you not to be, that you have to be tough and not care etc. Personally I think that adds to people's low sense of themselves, and makes them more vulnerable to depression and anxiety.
Now, I know not all criticism is an attack, and I know the whole bundle about facing reality and accepting how you are. But I do wonder if any criticism is purely objective. Often there's the whole thing about power behind it. But that's my experience.
In this situation, it sounds like you feel hurt that they haven't been completely open and honest with you?
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