little sister advice

justmyownself · 31-07-2007, 06:45 AM

I have a friend who is 16 and very dear to me. I've known her for a long time and watched her go through SI, recovery, relapse...everything. For a long time I have been her confidant since she knows that I used to be a self-injurer. But a couple of months ago she shared with me that she and a friend (also 16) met two guys online who they think are nice and yadda yadda yadda. I was really uneasy about this, but they promised me they wouldn't meet them or give out any location information so i let it slide. I found out yestarday that they have met these guys( I think they guys are 20 or so) and that the second friend is dating one of them. I am now really torn about what to do. On one hand I feel like I need to step in and either find some way to put a stop to this or tell their parents. But every ounce of my teenager self absolutely recoils at the idea of messing around in someones life un-invited or worse, involving parents. I really don't know what to do...Is there anything that I can do? Is it my place to tell they're parents? help?

Ivy · 31-07-2007, 07:07 AM

I'd sit her down and explain about all that rape/murder stuff from pervs on the internet.
And tell her 20 is WAY too old for her.
(Some may disagree, but it's an easy reason to say)
Sometimes you do need to tell the parents, even though every inch of you isn't comfortable with it.
Just try to talk to her and tell the parents if you really think something needs to be done that you can't do yourself.

Merc · 01-08-2007, 06:09 PM

*agrees with VULN>*
ask to meet them...
good luck
romp

Putain · 02-08-2007, 12:58 AM

I'd say no, it's absolutely not your place to tell their parents. What do you know about these guys anyway? Details seem a little sketchy. If i was in that situation i'd find out a little about them, then look forward to having the old "if you hurt her you're going to have to learn how to walk without kneecaps" convo.