so iv finally been offered an appointment by a counselor type person, she left me a message, but the only thing is, she said she can only see people for eight weeks thats the limit. i am thinking i dont even know if its worth bothering with just becaus i have so many issues that i dont know u could deal with any of them in 8 weeks. not only that but it would prob take me longer than that just to trust anyone enough to talk to them. im going to go talk to her and see what i think, but i dont know whether just to look into other options and not waste my time and possibly just get to like her and then not be able to see her and put myself through all that.
i dont know, anyone else have this problem?
I'm bothered that my psychologist appointments are limited to 18 so I can definitely relate. It feels like pressure to have it all sorted out by a certain time.
I have heard of this problem in reference to school counselors but I haven't had it myself. However I have had multiple therapists (one at a time of course) for various reasons and in some cases didn't last long, one was two months like you mentioned.
While I think it's not an ideal situation to have to switch therapists often, I don't regret it at all because the things I brought out with them, we're easier to bring out again when I moved on to the next therapist. On the other hand I know it can feel like starting over which is the downside.
It's a personal call really. Maybe focusing on only the most pressing issues would be useful for a 2month thing like day to day problems not so much past issues. Either way though, I'd definitely look into other options either way. Maybe you can find a better service in less than the two months and switch over.
I think you have to be aware of your level of urgency in seeing someone to make this decision. If you need to see someone in the meantime while you find a more better place for counseling I don't think it's a bad idea but again, that's just me, it's your call.
Hope it works out, take care
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um well iv already seen a fair few counsellors before and brought up everything before so its not really like i need the practice, lol that =sounds really bad. but then again, like u say maybe it would be good in the mean time to get me to a safer place. i dont know.
Go because I had time limited counselling and they referred me on to CBT. I then got referred to a clinical psychologist. That was time limited, but he has control over who he sees and I still see him. x
Well I've just started some new councelling that's only going to last 6 weeks. Which sort of sucks. But I think they have some sort of policy that if you still need it after that then you can see them outside of school (seeing someone inside school). So you might be able to do the same? Extend it if it's needed?
I think it's definately worth giving it a go, at least it's something. It might help, if only just a little.
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Counsillors will normally have a limited amount to start with, and to build a relationship et al. If they feel you need counselling past that, quite often they will continue the sessions with you or recommend and alternative that may help.
In my experience, even the short term sessions can be helpful as they may chose to focus on one particular issue in that time, rather than focus on absolutely everything that combines to create your specific issues.
If it is a concern, all counsellors should have a here is how this works for the first session - and you can raise any worries in that.
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no she said she cant extend it. yea im going to just see her to discuss it all with her and she said its then up to me.
well alot of my problems stem from the abuse and i dont want to get into that if i only have a few weeks, and altho i could try do some stuff with my confidence and things, i dont know how much that will help if u dont deal with the underlying problems, dont know.
Counsillors will normally have a limited amount to start with, and to build a relationship et al. If they feel you need counselling past that, quite often they will continue the sessions with you or recommend and alternative that may help.
In my experience, even the short term sessions can be helpful as they may chose to focus on one particular issue in that time, rather than focus on absolutely everything that combines to create your specific issues.
If it is a concern, all counsellors should have a here is how this works for the first session - and you can raise any worries in that.
^This.
Particularly the bit about them being able to recommend something else (another service) after the limit is up.
Personally, if we were in your situation we'd go for the 8 weeks - it's better than nothing - and ask her if she could refer us to someone else.
Our issues are surrounding trauma/abuse too, and we'd find it REALLY hard to open up to her with a lot of things, because it is such a short time, and limited.
But like Roiben said, perhaps focusing on a specific thing you are having trouble with, instead of trying to get through everything. So you have a focus in mind for the time you have with her.
mm well i think shed only be able to refer me on to the mental health team and i dont want to see them id rather find something else.
but yea ur probably right to go and at least she might be able to help me get to a safer place for the mean time. thanks guys.
As far as i am aware htis is pretty standard for counselling.
However, i would go anyway and discuse your concerns, its possible she might be able to refer you on to a better services or even extend your time based on needs.
you could also look into free servces that offer counslling as well instead of just nhs servces.,
