Graphic / Triggering - How do I get past this?

[Marko]

Don't know where to start so here I go, head first with my legs bound.

Me, I started a new course of humanistic therapy last week for my detachment issues. Don't know if it's going to work, honest, don't care.

Living with fiancé who I feel like I'm losing, we were set to get married next year but that is not happening. Just tonight for example, I was playingon lost trying to navigate a cave, she was telling me what directions to go etc, after I failed for a 4th time I give er the controller and said 'here you try'. She got up, said she doesn't want to play when I'm being spiteful, hurled the remote at me and stormed off. Meh.

Now, I accept I'm not in a good mood but to explain hat I had only been home an hour, I had been at my mums trying to comfort her as my grandad is in hospital and it's unlikely he will leave, just tryping that breaks my heart and makes me want to cry. Now, how am I mention to be happy, not upset given this?!

She hasn't yet asked me how I feel, how my grandad is doing, how my herapy was last week.

I need her so much right now and I just don't feel she is here for me. That leaves me on my own to cope with the demise of my mental health, my relationship, my grandad I'll health and all the pain my family is suffering around me.

Sorry, it's too much.

[whirlpools]

Maybe you could sit down with her and explain exactly how stressful everything is at the moment and how that makes it hard for you to be happy. Tell her what it is you need from her, because often communication is lacking in relationships and you both need to understand what is going on.

Take care.

[rach]

I agree with whirlpools - maybe sitting down and talking things over with her would help. Tell her how you feel, that you need her, and that you're struggling. It's important she asks how things are, and that she shows she cares. In the meantime, please be careful and take care of you. You're under a lot of stress right now. Feel free to PM me at any time x

I agree with what's been said. Talk to her, tell her how you feel. Lack of communication causes so many problems in relationships. Try not to blame her, as that will probably make her mad. Just explain you feel your relationship is weakening and you wish she'd ask you how you are and such. *hugs* feel free to pm me if you need to talk.