Stupid stupid man

[fallingangel]

OMG!
Finally I have found a new job to start at the end of the month... and got a ridiculous card from my Dad saying that 'he could almost hear my gf's sigh of relief from here'... and wanting me to say why I'm doing this particular job... I'm in my 30s for God's sake & he's still trying to control me/get me to justify myself to him... Had a huge rant at him (imagining he was there) yesterday which helped a bit... But still feeling upset, angry & not wanting to have to justify myself to him (or anyone), or seek acceptance...
Any words of wisdom gratefully received...

[Merc]

sorry, no great words. but i can relate.
does writing it out help?
would writing him about how he makes you feel help any?
congrats on the job, i hope you enjoy it.
Thats all that matters, is how you feel and your gf.

[UbermoronicismAgain]

Do what is right for YOU.
Sound simple doesn't it? I know it isn't always so straight forward, but I have to emphasise the YOU because it's only YOU who matters most.

Do whatever you need to do and perhaps Romp is right, write him a letter. In it, don't justify your decisions just explain them clear and concise.
Let him know you're an adult and you are getting a job you need because you need it. Simple as that.

Stay strong and look after number one.

Take care,

Iz x

you're an adult and you shouldn't have to justify yourself to him. like said, focus on YOU and try not to worry too much what he thinks, though i know that's easier said than done.