it is so hard to know what it is you want to find at times like this. Like oyu are looking for that magic cure, that is always just out of reach.
i know how hard it is. its all so surreal its hard to believe it really happened, and until you can believe it, how can you start to heal?
just be patient with yourself. allow yourself to feel, to grieve. its going to hurt, but you can do it.
and we're here to help you :)
Erin
Dealing with grief can be really difficult, especially as it is a loss to suicide. I'm really to sorry you have to go through this, but I know how hard it can be as well do you're not alone in this.
The best thing you can do for yourself is look after yourself and take care of yourself while you grieve, I know it's not going to be easy but try and keep giving yourself the things that will keep you functioning well; eat properly, sleep properly and in general take care of your physical health.
As far as grieving goes, you mention having trouble with what to do and expressing yourself. Perhaps you could write a letter to your friend, or even just write a journal or something here expressing how you feel.
Try and let yourself relax and more than anything - be gentle with yourself. Don't expect too much from yourself and allow yourself some time to heal. Remember that if you need people to talk to, we're more than willing to listen and help you.
I am sorry for your loss, I really am. I hope you know though that you can get through this, and we're here to support you.
Best Wishes,
Aimee xoxo
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, this must be so difficult for you as it seems to have been really sudden and unexpected. There must be so much going through your mind right now, we are all here to listen or you could use live help if you think that would be useful. There is an information booklet you can download here it begins with more practical matters which probably aren't relevant to you, but you might find the information on grieving helpful.
You can confide in us, but I can understand that it would be more helpful to have someone 'physically' be there for you. Are there any of your friends or family who you might be able to talk to? Getting through this initial shock will probably be the most difficult part for you, and it can be really helpful to even just have one person who you can go to for support. There are also helplines you can phone if you are able to do that.
I hope that it helped a little to write this down, please keep talking to us. Get in touch any time, i'm thinking about you. Take care. xxx
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
I know exactly what you are talking about... I lost a friend to suicide... It so messed up and its like you can't feel anything but if you start to feel its so overwhelming that you want to go back to not feeling... Its a vicious cycle... I just lost my 4 friend in a drowning accident... It will get better, it may take a while but it eventually subsides a bit.
im so sorry hunny.
i know words cant tell what your going through.
i remember when my friend died.
things will get better but over time.
if you want to talk pm me at anytime.
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" my precious, precious child, I love you and I would never, never leave you during your times of trials and suffering. When you see only one set of footprints it was then that I carried you" you were carried out of are lifes into the next and when its my time to leave this life I know i will be carried into the next life with you.
I wish i had my world complete again.
'Can we protend that airplanes in the night sky are like shooting stars, i could really use a wish right now' BoB
I started one on LiveJournal.com, alternatively you could post in the Ranting & Venting Forum about it [a forum where nobody can reply so if needed you could use it like a journal]. Actually there's also an option to have a journal here! I believe it is in some links above us, near the top of the page. You might also find the thread helpful; Messages.
I'm sorry for your loss and I really do feel your pain. Remember that we are all here for you; please look after yourself through this. I know it's so hard to believe- I've been there too and it's not easy, but you can make it and we're here for you.
