Honestly, there is no sure-fire way of getting through the tough parts. You just have to keep pushing through one day at a time. When one day is to much, break it down. Go at it a couple hours at a time, I've had days where I literally had to stop every 5 minutes and say "Okay, I survived that. It was hard, but I got through it" and then you take on the next five minutes. You are literally fighting a war inside yourself. It's a very hard battle because some days the side that wants, maybe needs, to SI will win and others the side of recovery will, everyday you win and lose. Not many battles turn out like that.
You haven't hurt yourself since May, that is absolutely amazing!! That shows just how strong you really are. You say that you nearly slipped up, but you didn't. You held out. Every time you overcome an urge, especially the string ones, you grow a little inside. It makes you so much stronger, ready to fight the next one.
How do you deal with the urges? One at a time. It's easiest to look at them as smaller, little problems. Obviously something is wrong for you to be triggered, but not everything is going wrong, right? Somewhere in the world there is good. There is love. There is hope. Find something, anything, to grab onto and focus on the good. The sunrise you watched when you were just a kid, or baking cookies, or your favorite teddy bear or your best friend. Talk to someone when it gets to hard for you to handle on your own. RYL is always here, I'm always here if you need to talk.
You'll get through this because you are strong.
PM me if you ever need to talk, okay?
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