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Old 10-08-2009, 03:37 PM   #1
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People 'get happier as they age'

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Most people get happier as they grow older, studies on people aged up to their mid-90s suggest. Despite worries about ill health, income, changes in social status and bereavements, later life tends to be a golden age, according to psychologists.
They found older adults generally make the best of the time they have left and have learned to avoid situations that make them feel sad or stressed.
The young should do the same, they told the American Psychological Association.

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The UK is an ageing nation - in less than 25 years, one in four people in the UK will be over 65 and the number of over-85s will have doubled. And it is expected there will be 30,000 people aged over 100 by the year 2030. According to University of California psychologist Dr Susan Turk Charles, this should make the UK a happier society.
By reviewing the available studies on emotions and ageing she found that mental wellbeing generally improved with age, except for people with dementia-related ill health.
Work carried out by Dr Laura Carstensen, a psychology professor at Stanford University, suggested why this might be the case.
Dr Carstensen asked volunteers ranging in age from 18 to mid-90s to take part in various experiments and keep diaries of their emotional state.
She found the older people were far less likely than the younger to experience persistent negative moods and were more resilient to hearing personal criticism.
They were also much better at controlling and balancing their emotions - a skill that appeared to improve the older they became.
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Dr Charles explained: "Based on workby Carstensen and her colleagues, we know that older people are increasingly aware that the time they have left in life is growing shorter.
"They want to make the best of it so they avoid engaging in situations that will make them unhappy.
"They have also had more time to learn and understand the intentions of others which helps them to avoid these stressful situations."
Dr Carstensen said the young would do well to start preparing for their old age now.
This includes adopting a healthy daily routine and ensuring some social investment is spent outside of the workplace and family home.
Andrew Harrop, head of public policy at Age Concern and Help the Aged, said the findings were encouraging.
"For many people, older age and later life is often looked upon with dread and worry.
Far too many younger people assume that getting older is a process that will inevitably mean sickness, frailty and lack of mobility and greater dependence. However, this is far from the truth in very many cases. "Many older people lead active, healthy lives enriched by experience and learning.
"This positive advantage can be brought to bear across so many aspects of daily life which - in turn - hugely benefits our ageing society.
"It's vital that there is growing acceptance that just because someone is getting older, it doesn't mean they no longer have a significant contribution to make.
"This study is one of many which shows that later life can be a enormously positive experience."

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Old 10-08-2009, 10:11 PM   #2
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I hope this is true and I agree with it too. I think that people learn the skills they need as they grow older to deal with situations that would have been emotionally too much for them when they were younger.

There is hope yet :)

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Old 10-08-2009, 10:39 PM   #3
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Makes sense.

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Old 10-08-2009, 10:41 PM   #4
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If you have the right attitude, then this can be very true. We can all hope anyway.



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Old 18-08-2009, 05:25 PM   #5
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I think it can go Childhood = happy, Adolscence = unhappy, Adulthood = happy.

I mean even with non RYL style people you get Teenage angst and the stress of education.
Obviously it differs from person to person, but yeah, it makes sense that we get happier and put more effort into being happy when we get older.





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Old 19-08-2009, 09:15 AM   #6
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I hope i'll be happy when i'm an adult.

(I refuse to accept that i'm one already)

I'm much happier than I was when I was younger.





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Old 19-08-2009, 11:18 AM   #7
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I'm much happier than I was when I was younger.
me too.
at least i am more aware / intelligent about certain things now.



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Old 26-08-2009, 01:11 AM   #8
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The culture today makes many young feel they aren't "real" until they are famous or rich etc. Then as you get older you can realize its wanting too much, and in the wrong way that sets you up for disappointment, frustration and emptiness. Once the ego is out of the way the misery/futility index goes way down. A person can then learn to roll with the punches.

It's odd but if you get your attitude right you can feel younger than when you were a kid. Your identity and well being don't depend as much on circumstances as teens think. Keep a nice attitude, stay humble and admit your mistakes - and good things come out of the blue. Being an ego beaver eventually causes bad things to come out of the blue even if the goals get met. Lao Tse called the mechanism the "lathe of heaven". Jesus said pretty much the same thing. Of course none of this means you can strive and be happy. It just means don't be too ambitious in the older meaning of the word. If people would do anything to get ahead they used to be called "ambitious" (think of "ambidextrous" - ambitious used to mean people who would do anything (turn to left or to the right to get ahead). Now people use word to mean industrious etc.



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Old 26-08-2009, 05:16 PM   #9
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My first thought at the growing numbers wa "well thats gonna cost the state". Lol :(



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The culture today makes many young feel they aren't "real" until they are famous or rich etc.

So true!
Or that we don't know enough. In my opinion, people are wrong when they say it's a young nation, that you can only achieve things when you are young.

I mean, yeah, glamour models are young. But they aint around for long. And so on so on. Successful people are older, those who stick around and have careers.



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Old 30-08-2009, 01:41 PM   #11
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Woah,

I hope this is true -Thanks for sharing Jo x



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