Confessions?

Psiren · 02-07-2009, 02:43 PM

Alright bear with me as I'm fully aware this could be a stupid idea.
But I was wondering if there was any chance of getting a thread like the cofessions thread back in the ED board?
I know the original was probably one of the most triggering places on there, but if we're careful about it and with the new rules maybe?

It might just be me who feels like this but it'd be nice to have somewhere to post when I just want one person to say 'yes that's fine' amd I don't want to take up a lot of space with a thread that I don't really need to post. I know you can PM people and such but I don't like doing that because I feel like I'm pushing them for something, and chat scares me...

Maybe I'm spouting crap, it wouldn't be the first time, so delete if this is a stupid idea.

Heidi Tiger · 02-07-2009, 02:46 PM

There's already the "get something off your chest/say here what you can't say to someone" thread in serious. Surely that has a near identical purpose?

Popple · 02-07-2009, 02:58 PM

I think its a good idea but in ED it would have a lot of potential to get triggering and I think you will get probably people going in daily saying they have purged, etc and it could become quite competitive.

[Purple_Rain] · 02-07-2009, 04:02 PM

I think the difference between the 'get something off your cheast' thread is that it is literally for just htat, people don't expect or very oftne recive replies to their posts. I think katie is tlaking about a thread where you would get a bit of support, wihtout having to make a whole new thread?

Psiren · 03-07-2009, 02:49 PM

^ Yeah that's what I meant.
I know it has the potential to get competetive and triggering which is why it's a bit =\
Also it might just be me who needs constant reassurance to be fair...

I.Heart.And · 03-07-2009, 03:29 PM

I actually think it's a good idea and would mean people would feel less alone / ashamed or what-have-you.

It's different to just venting something like the 'get something off your chest thread'.

squirrelspit · 03-07-2009, 03:42 PM

like a mini rant thread that allowed replies... i think that would be a good idea...

88shelz · 03-07-2009, 07:34 PM

no idea is a stupid idea.
i havnt heard or the thread before so dont really have an opinion on it.
anything you feel is a good idea though you should speak out about. the worst that come out of it is "sorry we wont do that "

Siouxsie · 04-07-2009, 10:41 AM

I don't think I ever saw the original one but I think it's a good idea. xxx

[pretty on the inside] · 04-07-2009, 06:48 PM

Sounds like a good idea to me. I usually use my rant thread to get stuff off my chest but sometimes you just kind of want a bit of reassurance, but I wouldn't make a thread on the main board for that. if that makes sense.. x

Bitter_Angel · 05-07-2009, 02:10 PM

What about a posititve support thread. Works inthe same way but for postitve encouragment of achievements you may have reached.

Bellatrix · 05-07-2009, 02:20 PM

^ there's the 'what have you done for recovery today' thread

Snow White. · 06-07-2009, 05:19 AM

I think you'd have to worry about it being triggering/competitive, as was I think why it was removed. But if it could keep in line with the ED board rules then, yeah.

Bellatrix · 06-07-2009, 03:46 PM

Maybe try it? A trial period, say. And if it violates the rules, it's closed again? Seems a shame to not try something that could benefit folks.

[Purple_Rain] · 09-07-2009, 12:36 PM

I think with the new rules it would be a bti safer, but i'd still be worried with people gettign competitve on the thread. I think, if it did come back as a trail, there would have to be some kind of clause in it where you get support for the feelign syou had as a result of the ED, not just what happened/what you did

for example
"I fainted"
"I fainted and it scared me quite a lot, I could do with some hugs"

"I purged more than once today"
"I purged more than once and I feel as though it is getting a out of control"

"I binged worse than I ever have before"
"I binged, and I'm worried this will be a huge set-back in my recovery"

does that make sense? can people see how the first statement sare more competitive than the second, and how the second would result in much better support?

[Purple_Rain] · 09-07-2009, 12:36 PM

Oh and by the way, I'm going to bring this up with the other moderators, and see what they think.

[pretty on the inside] · 09-07-2009, 01:06 PM

^^ That makes perfect sense and sounds like a good idea.

maria2 · 09-07-2009, 01:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by [Purple_Rain]

I think with the new rules it would be a bti safer, but i'd still be worried with people gettign competitve on the thread. I think, if it did come back as a trail, there would have to be some kind of clause in it where you get support for the feelign syou had as a result of the ED, not just what happened/what you did

for example
"I fainted"
"I fainted and it scared me quite a lot, I could do with some hugs"

"I purged more than once today"
"I purged more than once and I feel as though it is getting a out of control"

"I binged worse than I ever have before"
"I binged, and I'm worried this will be a huge set-back in my recovery"

does that make sense? can people see how the first statement sare more competitive than the second, and how the second would result in much better support?

Well put, if it had this kind of groudrule - then it's likely to be more supportive and less triggering, and it would possibly discourage against individual threads where people post merely about negative behaviours they have done, and more about feelings.

There's SI and ED stuff I have done years ago (now 7 years free) that I still have alot of shame about. It's difficult to share it with anyone, because fear that someone might have thoughts of doing similiar

[Purple_Rain] · 09-07-2009, 01:18 PM

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if it had this kind of groudrule

This could mean though, that the Moderators would have to be quite strict with the thread, and maybe remove things that we wouldn't normally, just to keep it with a supportive atmosphere and prevent a competitive one. Do people think they would be ok with this?

(please bare in mind this is me trying to explore ideas with you guys, and I do not speak on behalf of the other moderators, and dont yet know there oppinions on this thread comming back)

Bellatrix · 09-07-2009, 03:13 PM

I see what you're saying. There's a difference between someone posting, 'I restricted today' in a sort of 'ohh, yey, I ate less than you' sort of way and someone confessing than they restricted even though they felt bad about it.

It's finding the line, and i think its going to be hard to draw. Anyone got ideas?