one of my abusers keeps emailing me... I've been deleting them... and I sent a reply asking for him to stop... but he's still sending them... I said I'd block him... but now he's emailing off multiple accounts... so i don't even realise it's him until I open it...
Can you make a new email account?
Also it might be useful to report him to whoever you have your email with, most sites tend to have a button somewhere saying 'report abuse' alhtough if he is using multiple accounts then it will probably be more difficult to stop it completely without getting a new account.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
I can... but not until next week as I'm not at home right now (at parents house), go back saturday
I guess I could just not log in to them until then...
but it's like morbid curiosity... I wonder if he's sent one... so I look... then I feel dirty as him name's there... he shouldn't be there...
Last edited by shadow-light : 08-06-2009 at 06:58 PM.
No I understand I have done that too, sometimes you just can't help yourself but I really think you should try keep away from your email for now maybe think of something you can do if you go to check it. You can pm me anytime if you need anything.
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You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
If your university's e-mail is anything like gmail, could you set up something where an e-mail from x, y, and z accounts are automatically deleted?
You might be able to e-mail or call the tech people and set up an appointment for when you get back or see if they can walk you through something or set it up themselves.
If your university's email system lets you use filters, you can set it up so any messages that include a certain word get instantly sent to your junk mail folder. So if he is mentioning certain things that nobody else would talk to you about, you could use that.
I'll see if I can find an email address for the tech department at the uni and ask them what I can do... I think that's the best plan as I'm not very computer literate
ok... i admit I'm an idiot... I read the emails...
he knos how to bother me... he asked some things... and... well... i'm now not doing too well...
i'm not going to log into emails again... i think... will try not ot...
You are not an idiot.
How are you feeling about it now?
I know its hard but remember he does not control you and what he is doing is wrong and harrasment.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
Hes asking me questions about things... I know i should ignore it but he won't stop... Not sure how to make him stop... Can't exactly report him or anything, never reported what happened in the first place... Uni not gotten back to me yet... But as he knows my email he knows what uni i'm at!
Do you want to talk about what he is asking you? It is obviously upsetting.
You can report him for harrasment without reporting what happened before obviously depending on the content of the emails they made find out but you wouldn't have to persue that unless you wanted to. Either way it is up to you but he has no right to do this and to make you scared.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
I better not... the things he's saying would give it away... and people would know... and know that I'd kept it secret so long, and know what happened...
if he just stops all will be ok
Whats so bad about people knowing? You haven't done anything wrong and you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Will it really be ok? I don't think it will because this is obviousl hurting you a lot and I don't think those feelings will go away just because the emails have. The emails are undoubtbly going to make you feel worse but this is obviously about more than the emails and you don't deserve to feel so bad.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
people can't know because every time people know they think I've lied... and they can't know now as I've kept it from everyone for so long...
it's just... I thought I had started to put it behind me, to move forward... but him reappearing in my life (even if only in email account) has brought it all back... and some of the things he's been saying have made me think about some bad things I did...
but I think it's because I was feeling a bit vulnerable already as I'm away from home and that always makes me feel a bit on edge... but I'm home on saturday, and I can get the tech people to help on monday...
I guess I'm just hoping that once I'm home I'll feel better... or something...
*hugs* i'm sure you have nothing to be ashamed of. if you need to talk, feel free to pm me anytime. you're not an idiot. i can see why you'd be curious. try and not log on to that account until you can talk to the tech people. i'm sorry he's harrassing you like this. could you threaten to report him to the police, telling them the past and present abuse/harrassment? even if you don't intend to, it might scare him off.
if the last few days have taught me anything it's that it's better not to tell anyone about anything. so I'll just cope, I used to manage, can do so again.
