I had a check up the day before I went in to labour and the dr said the head wan't engaged and I'd probably be waiting a week. My contractions only lasted about 20 seconds, also only ever had pain at the bottom of my back and when I called the hosp they told me to take paracetamol even though I was pushing. My old neigbour came and after one look called an ambulance 45 mins later i had given birth. i don't see how anyone can be sure when to go in based on the signs to look out for. Good luck Lou, I hope everything goes ok!
I took Adela to the Dr about her cough but she said that it'd clear up on it's own.
lou, i was 4cm before i had any kind of pains, and chloe's head wasn't engaged until i was fully dialated and needing to push...
i took her to the appointment because i rang ahead and we were the last in so there was one person leaving and us.
the health visitor is happy about her development although she wrote that chloe only tummy crawls... but she clearly crawled properly whilst there and she wrote that she isn't pulling herself up yet... despite chloe pulling herself up using the health visitor's arm to do it....
she's still in the 25th centile for everything and when she was born she was in the top 1/4 of the 25th centile, now she's halfway down or further. she's really fretful today, and i'ven noticed for the 3rd time that the gum has closed over her front top tooth again. it's done this for months, the other side has come through fine, first go. and she has sore red patches on both sides of where her front teeth are sposed to be, so i guess they are the canine's getting ready to make an appearance.
hope you're all ok, mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
I can relate - grief does strange things. I've fallen out with my mum over my stepfather and grandmother's deaths last summer. Deaths bring other issues to a head. For years I've been treading on eggshells whenever I spoke to my mum about but them dying made me stand up to her a bit, and now we're fighting. While my stepfather was dying my mum's exact words were that she would be dancing on his grave. When my grandmother died, she managed half an hour being nice to me, then went back to slagging her off again.
On an entirely different note... are anyone's boobs REALLY saggy now? Mine are like old sacks. They went up five sizes during pregnancy, and have since gone down to just one size bigger than they were before I was pregnant. They used to point forwards, I didn't need a bra. Now they are really saggy. It's all loose skin - a bit like when really obese people lose lots of weight. What can I do about it?
Also, does anyone want some Ashton and parsons teething powders? Madeleine found some, and took them all out of the box (but not out of the wraps) and I realised, she doesn't need them anymore. So if anyone wants them, pm me your address and I'll send them to you for free.
On an entirely different note... are anyone's boobs REALLY saggy now? Mine are like old sacks. They went up five sizes during pregnancy, and have since gone down to just one size bigger than they were before I was pregnant. They used to point forwards, I didn't need a bra. Now they are really saggy. It's all loose skin - a bit like when really obese people lose lots of weight. What can I do about it?
Totally, mine were never that great anyway but after a year of breastfeeding I can see them getting worse and worse. I'm ok (just about!) in a bra but without I could practically tuck them into my trousers, haha. It is kind of depressing, but if that's a sacrifice I have to make to feed him for as long as he needs it then so be it.. unfortunately I don't have a solution, apart from surgery. Which I wouldn't consider for me, but I suppose if they were really getting you down and you were done having children it might be an option. I dread to think what the next, potentially, years are going to do. And then the next babies.. they'll be done to my knees!
I don't regret breastfeeding at all. I plan to continue until Madeleine is two, possible slightly longer (she's 21 months now). I wouldn't not do it again, just because my boobs have gone saggy. I also wonder if they wouldn't have sagged anyway, even if I hadn't breastfed - seeing as they grew so much during pregnancy.
Personally, I would consider surgery. Objectively though, I shouldn't bother. There are a lot of people far worse looking than me LOL. But I've always suffered with the low body image... and I've always secretly fantasised about having as much surgery as possible *rolls eyes* logically I know that's stupid though. I want at least one more child anyway...
I kind of regret how badly I thought of my body when I was a teenager - I wish I had that body now! I used to take for granted boobs that pointed forwards...
I know exactly what you mean, I have no regrets about breastfeeding Oliver and I will continue until he self-weans, but it's still hard watching my body get worse and worse. Oh well, I'll just try and see it in a positive light - I'm going have a life long memento of our feeding relationship :P
According to something i read on Netmums a while ago, breasts are meant to perk up (some time after) stopping feeding, something to do with the fat cells i think. Alot of sagging is from just being pregnant, from what people say! We managed to mixed feed until just after first birthday, but mine were never big anyway, haha.
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My heart just needs his smile, that i can't forget, like so melancholy a kiss.
I'm going have a life long memento of our feeding relationship :P
LOL that's a really good way of thinking about it
It's funny, most people are happy when their boobs are big. But for me, I've always wanted mine to be small. Even when I was just a B cup, I thought they were too big and wanted to be an A. I guess I'm a proper woman now...
I suppose it doesn't matter that much. They're just mammories after all - and I've used them for the purpose nature intended.
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According to something i read on Netmums a while ago, breasts are meant to perk up (some time after) stopping feeding, something to do with the fat cells i think.
lol well fingers crossed shona, i stopped breastfeeding freyja about 3 months ago now and they are still hideous. i also used to feel awful about my body when i was a teenager and i would kill for that body now. i bought a body stocking as jamie likes them and i took it straight off depressed as it looked horrendous....if i had perky boobs and a flat tummy again it would have looked great! but sadly, saggy boobs and saggy stretch mark tummy is not really attractive.
i was naturally a D but went down to a C with weight loss. then when i got pregnant i went up to a E. now i dont even know what i am. all i know is im feeling horrible about my body. i havent lost the baby belly, which looks so out of place on my small frame. i have gone from being a size 6 when i met jamie when i was 17 to at my 'biggest' a 10 last year....then i got pregnant and i am now a 12/14. all of this is due to my belly. if it wasnt for the belly i would be back into size 10s and i would be happy with that. i just need to get my arse in gear and do some sit ups as its toning i need, not weight loss. i weigh 9 stone which is an ideal weight for my height as i am only 5'3.
i will stop rambling now!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
I haven't lost my tummy. It is greatly reduced (you should have seen me pregnant!) but it's all wobbly and covered in stretchmarks. It used to be toned.
Im new in here, Ive just found out im 7 weeks pregnant & im just wondering if anyone has any tips how to cope with the mood swings.
im normally a really passive person but over the last week ive just got angry at the stupidist things & became really moody with my family & friends.
Im also starting to become really depressed again & thinking about doing stupid stuff, ive quit smoking and drinking which I used to be really dependant on and tbh im just finding everything really overwhelming.
Sorry to ramble on i just dont know where else to turn
Hope everyone is ok...and their babies! x
Scabette is my RYL Sister
I don't care if it hurts..I wanna have control..I want a perfect body..I want a perfect soul...I want you to notice..when I'm not around.. I wish I was special..so very special..but I'm a Creep...I'm a weirdo...what the hell am I doing here...I don't belong here" "Such Beautiful Dignity in Self Abuse" ~ Richey Edwards (Manic Street Preachers)~
congrats on the pregnancy, have you been to the doctors or anything yet? I'm not sure hat to say for the mood sings as i still suffer terribly from them! Sorry to hear your finding it overhelming but your more than elcome to pm me if you need to
yeah ive been to the drs had it confirmed in a blood test, im just feeling a little shocked and findin it a bit hard to cope with all the feelings..and hormones i guess!
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Scabette is my RYL Sister
I don't care if it hurts..I wanna have control..I want a perfect body..I want a perfect soul...I want you to notice..when I'm not around.. I wish I was special..so very special..but I'm a Creep...I'm a weirdo...what the hell am I doing here...I don't belong here" "Such Beautiful Dignity in Self Abuse" ~ Richey Edwards (Manic Street Preachers)~
imagine putting a huge jelly into a wet suit, (lined with a thin layer of the material used to make tights) and packing it in, it'd be pretty firm right? now stretch the stomach of the wetsuit to ripping point in places, what happens? the jelly andd thinner material oozes out, take some of the jelly out, and it doesn't 'spring back' into place does it? because it's damaged beyond natural repair. you'd need to stitch it back up and it would never be as strong again.
you don't neccesarily have more fat than before, just don't have the tight skin to hold it in as well. Stace, bodystockings... i think they do one in thicker material (so not see through) and it's made out of that super elastic pull in material. so looks like say lycra... but makes it so oyu can hardly breathe :P
love u all xx
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
He may be getting frustrated at the flow rate, perhaps time for new teats, preferably ones that are a faster flow than he's used to. If this is the case, he may not be kicking off at night because he's sleepy and happy to feed slowly.
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My heart just needs his smile, that i can't forget, like so melancholy a kiss.
