Wow. I didn't know so many people struggled with this. I do as well, and it's something I've never told anyone.
I'm very good at hiding it. (At least, I think I am!) I think about the person a lot, have conversations with them in my head, want to be around them/see them/talk to them...but I am a pretty quiet, some would say closed off, kind of person. So most of the time I don't talk to them, or if I do, I don't talk about the things I would like to tell them about, I don't let on that anything's wrong, and I try not to let them see how much I like them. I'm afraid of creeping someone out. But just seeing the person, knowing they are near, makes me feel safer.
It's usually guys with me. Guys who show that they care about me even a little. Usually around my age, give or take a few years. So that's another reason I do my best to hide it - I don't want them or anyone to get the wrong idea, that I have a crush on them or something. Because that's not it, they just make me feel safe.
I've thought that it's probably got something to do with my relationship with my dad, who is an emotionally abusive jerk. Maybe I'm looking for guys to care about me because I feel like my dad never did.
I try not to get obsessed like this, it's embarrassing and makes me feel like a stalker...but it's hard. I just want them to care about me.
Im so glad you made this tread because i thought i was weird being this way but it has realy realy shocked me how many people do this.
I obsess about people for months at a time and i care about them immensley even though sometimes i hardly know them.
And i want to be special in their eyes.
Ive had cameras planted in my room and the old tenants are watching me beacause i am special to them. But sometimes im not special to the people i obsess about and that realy makes me upset.
I try not to be too stalkerish but i just care about my obsessions too much sometimes that it hurts.
I can go over the top sometimes and try and dress like them and even practise talking like they do when im on my own! (i know, im crazy!)
Again, thankyou so much for making this thread!
It gave me a sense of relief.
Meg x
I'm glad you don't think it sounds weird. Strange thing is I don't like my family touching me. Well it's only my mum and sister now. Goes back to my dad and the way he tried to kiss me as a young adult so I just decided I wouldn't kiss any of my family again and then I didn't want them touching me but I'm usually O.K. with people outside my family touching me. Strange! and sad!
I know not much is happening in this thread at the moment, but I just want to say that I am so glad I found this thread. I honestly thought I was the only one who was like this. I'm relieved to find that I'm not alone. I have this with a teacher too; it didn't start until after I started confiding in her and then I just needed to talk to her all the time and see her. I do the same thing; I play out conversations with her in my mind and I am always reminded of her. It's hard now, because lots of stuff happened with school and now I don't have her to talk to anymore. I still can't stop thinking about her and playing out the conversations in my head; I haven't spoken to her for 7 weeks and it's terrible. It's scary and people don't understand that I am not in 'love' with her, I just need her.
Wow, I feel so much better reading all your posts. I feel much less like a freak. Good to know I'm not alone. = ]
oh non-believer, please believe me.
is there honestly nothing in this world
that keeps you living & breathing?
you're a ghost in your own
goddamn city.
Can't believe I hadn't seen this before. I can get like that with a quite intense and literal obsession. It's only really badly and strongly happened twice. One lasted 3 or 4 years. One was just weeks.
im good at hiding it too...right now im kinda obsessed with a girl in my class. its awful. i hate it...i just met her and i can't stop thinking about her. the worst thing is that i don't know if i did well confiding in her about myself.
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
Hey irene, how are you? haven't seen you on this thread for a while.
I am just getting over a major obsession with someone at uni, it's been going on for three years, but for some reason it's going away, sort of. It's such a weird thing to not be thinking of her all the time. And also I'm scared that I will just get obsessed with someone else and start the whole crappy cycle again :/
It's odd that your psychiatrist said to not get close to people. It's not getting close to people that's the problem, it's how when you get close, you become attached and obsessed. Seems to me your psychiatrist would help you work through the underlying issues instead of telling you not to get close to people. I mean, it's absurd really. Part of life is people. You have to get close to people if you want to have relationships with them.
But, yeah, I do that too. More often than not. Pretty much the same types of things that have already been said.
OMG!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS THREAD!! I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER KNOWING THAT EVERYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD FEELS THE SAME!!! lol
ok well, hi everyone. i'm new here and i made an account just to post in this thread because i also have the same problem. i'm female and i'm 13 yrs old. i get too attached to people, mainly teachers and most of the time they're females. i remember having this problem since when i was in nursery (5 yrs old), i liked my teacher so much, i want to be with her all the time, i like talking to her and i want her to always notice me so i make ways for her to notice me. but i didnt know i was obsessed with her since i was only a kid. i also had that problem when i moved to a new school when i was 6, i got obsessed with our teacher. and when i was in grade one i was also so obsessed with my english teacher. i sent her letters and stuff just for her to notice me. when i was in grade two, i got obsessed with my computer teacher. when i was in grade 3, i got obsessed with my english tcher. when i was in grade 4, i got obsessed with my computer tcher, but this was worse, i would follow her everywhere, i would always go out of the class to go to the computer laboratory just to look at the window and see her. i wanted to know every single detail about her life. i was obsessed with everything about her. i always wanted to impress her just so she would notice me. i wanted all her attention. and i hate it when other students get her attention. i wanted to be a really close friend of her. but when i was in grade 5 i started hating her when i felt like she doesnt like me anymore. i told my seatmate (who became a close friend of mine) about it and she thought i had a crush on our teacher. but it's not that. it's something else that i cant figure out what. when i was in grade 6 i got obsessed with my hekasi teacher, but he's a male. and now i'm in first year high school and im now studying in a new school, and i'm so obssessed with my MAPEH teacher.
it started during the 2nd week of classes. i wanted to know her more and i wanted her to notice me. i wanted to be a really good friend of her. and since i'm a very outspoken and outgoing person, everyone else in class knew about it. but at first my closest friend in class was the only person who knew it at first, but when i got closer to my classmates, i started telling them about it. well, not actually telling them about how i feel that i want to be friends with her, that i want to see her all the time, be with her all the time and stuff like that. but i would always talk about her nonstop, i would talk about how good she is. i felt like i was some kind of a stalker. some of my classmates even joked me about being a lesbian. i also once questioned if i'm a lesbian, but no, i'm straight. i'm even very girly.
i realized i've been this way to certain people in the past already. it doesnt really bother me that much now that i'm in first year high school bcos it's not as bad as it used to be when i was younger. because when i was younger, whoever it is that i'm obsessed with, she would always occupy my mind, i would always think about her and i also do imagine having a conversation with her. i talk about her all the time to the extent that i cant focus on doing something. everything reminds me of her. when i watch a movie, it reminds me of her and i would imagine the protagonist on the movie that it's her. and whatever it is that i'm doing, it always reminds me of her. is this a mental disorder?? my parents dont know this since i dont really tell them everything about me because i'm not that close to them because of some past family problems i had with them.
i'm also like that eversince when i was younger!!!
OMG!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS THREAD!! I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER KNOWING THAT EVERYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD FEELS THE SAME!!! lol
ok well, hi everyone. i'm new here and i made an account just to post in this thread because i also have the same problem. i'm female and i'm 13 yrs old. i get too attached to people, mainly teachers and most of the time they're females. i remember having this problem since when i was in nursery (5 yrs old), i liked my teacher so much, i want to be with her all the time, i like talking to her and i want her to always notice me so i make ways for her to notice me. but i didnt know i was obsessed with her since i was only a kid. i also had that problem when i moved to a new school when i was 6, i got obsessed with our teacher. and when i was in grade one i was also so obsessed with my english teacher. i sent her letters and stuff just for her to notice me. when i was in grade two, i got obsessed with my computer teacher. when i was in grade 3, i got obsessed with my english tcher. when i was in grade 4, i got obsessed with my computer tcher, but this was worse, i would follow her everywhere, i would always go out of the class to go to the computer laboratory just to look at the window and see her. i wanted to know every single detail about her life. i was obsessed with everything about her. i always wanted to impress her just so she would notice me. i wanted all her attention. and i hate it when other students get her attention. i wanted to be a really close friend of her. but when i was in grade 5 i started hating her when i felt like she doesnt like me anymore. i told my seatmate (who became a close friend of mine) about it and she thought i had a crush on our teacher. but it's not that. it's something else that i cant figure out what. when i was in grade 6 i got obsessed with my hekasi teacher, but he's a male. and now i'm in first year high school and im now studying in a new school, and i'm so obssessed with my MAPEH teacher.
it started during the 2nd week of classes. i wanted to know her more and i wanted her to notice me. i wanted to be a really good friend of her. and since i'm a very outspoken and outgoing person, everyone else in class knew about it. but at first my closest friend in class was the only person who knew it at first, but when i got closer to my classmates, i started telling them about it. well, not actually telling them about how i feel that i want to be friends with her, that i want to see her all the time, be with her all the time and stuff like that. but i would always talk about her nonstop, i would talk about how good she is. i felt like i was some kind of a stalker. some of my classmates even joked me about being a lesbian. i also once questioned if i'm a lesbian, but no, i'm straight. i'm even very girly.
i realized i've been this way to certain people in the past already. it doesnt really bother me that much now that i'm in first year high school bcos it's not as bad as it used to be when i was younger. because when i was younger, whoever it is that i'm obsessed with, she would always occupy my mind, i would always think about her and i also do imagine having a conversation with her. i talk about her all the time to the extent that i cant focus on doing something. everything reminds me of her. when i watch a movie, it reminds me of her and i would imagine the protagonist on the movie that it's her. and whatever it is that i'm doing, it always reminds me of her. is this a mental disorder?? my parents dont know this since i dont really tell them everything about me because i'm not that close to them because of some past family problems i had with them.
I'm SO obsessed with my manager right now. I just want her to be my friend.
I'm having so much issues with my flatmate at the moment, and ive been obsessed with my boss since around march, but im never able to speak to her, i get so nervous. However lately ive been telling her about my flatmate.
I was scared i was going to be locked out of my flat after work one night and she was like "ill give you my number then incase she does" but i said its ok cos my friend lives round the corner. Then she was like "is there anywhere you can stay when shes behaving like this?" and i said my friends flat and she was like "oh ok good, i was going to suggest you stay with me"
She's making it SO much worse.
Then a couple of days ago i added her on facebook. I cant stop looking at her photos. I've wanted to add her since march but kept telling myself it was a bad idea. It was a bad idea. Argh.
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You can buy me with a coffee,I'm so cheap. Got bitten fingernails&a head full of past;Got a broken heart&your name on my cast.
&&I wanted her to tell me that she will never wake me.
im exactly the same, always have been. first it was my teachers at school then a particular uni lecturer and now my managers. the thought of not having them around scares the hell outta me. i find myself talking about them all the time tho and think people cotton on...im like oh x said this and y said this, or do you know when x and y are coming up etc..... very irritating. i annoy myself. especially as i cant seem to get close to a guy to have a relationship grrrr!!
glad im not alone tho, i dont feel like such a loser now!!!
x
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!!
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!! 
