Do you think Esmé's being clingy because you're in a new relationship and she has sensed thet something has changed? If so I think she'll calm down when the idea becomes less new.
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Originally Posted by Le Almighty Kitten
Jo, is this Esmé and your new other half? Might be that some of Esmé's clingyness might be developmental, if that makes sense?
I think its maybe a bit of both, because she has just been real clingy, but not just with me, but with my sister too. But i do think, she is kind of like, i don't want to share my mummy, because she's very, you're not allowed to touch my mummy when Cheryl was around, moving my hand away and things. I'm sure she'll settle down. I've always said i'd never let Esmé see my partner once in a new relationship until i thought it was pretty serious, but i'm not sure what happened here, i think, maybe i thought it was okay, because it's not someone new...she already knows her...=|
Any way, i hope Chloe is feeling better Mand!
Explosive nappies are never nice haha.
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It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
ooooh i hope chloe feels better soon. sounds like a stoater of a nappy!!! i dont get so much of them with freyja now shes weaning and on formula.
KT, its good not to obsess then you dont make it stressful as you say. its also good to just do it when the feeling takes you, rather than just keeping to ovulation dates and all the rest of it. sure, you kind of need to be having sex around that time to conceive, but when we were trying to conceive we just had loads of fun trying. we had a lot of sex and it was great fun, and the more sex we had the more we fancied it. in the end i conceived very quickly. best way to do it!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
lol i know that one stace!
well chloe ate chicken nuggets with rice and vegetables (stage 4 jar) today, she's not so keen on the rice, she prefers pasta, but she chomped it all the same. that's like 15months+ so 8months ahead of herself, the doctor said if she's happy eating it then as long as i'm not giving her huge amounts then it's fine. looks like it's about right coz the doctor said her weight was about right (by looking at her), not fat but not boney either.
it's been 5 nappies today....
and mum and brother have come down with a tummy bug too...
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
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something really upset me today. apologies for the length of the post.
i have been feeling pretty depressed as you know, and am on the anti depressants now just waiting on them kicking in for what the doctor says is PND.
i have been feeling pretty **** about myself and have been finding myself saying 'dont' when jamie does his 'wooty woo' remark as im getting undressed. i have been particularly funny about my tummy, as i am slim generally but i have this buddah belly brought on no doubt through having a baby, lack of exercise and binge eating which is related to my depression.
was at my friends today as she took freyja when i went to the dentist (yuck) and i was taking her baby for the afternoon while she took her cat to the vet which was an hours bus ride away.
her door went not long after i arrived and it was her babies uncle. i am not keen on him, hes one of these guys who goes on about how hard he is and hes done this and that. hes a cheeky bastard and i just dont like him but have been nothing but civil to him for her sake, though i know she only tolerates him as he is her childs uncle. she has a friend staying with her at the moment and he also dislikes this guy.
so he comes in when we are out having a fag (bad!) on the balcony, there is a window in the living room so you can see onto the balcony.
we came back in and sat down and hes sitting with her lo and he turns and says to me 'you know when i came in and saw you standing out there i thought you were pregnant'
'i beg your pardon?' i said
'well i dont know if it was the way your top was hanging but i thought you were pregnant!!!' as he laughs about it
i said 'well have you ever housed a child for 10 months (freyja was very late!)??? you didnt see the size of me when i gave birth i was huge!!!'
and he said 'yeah well that was SIX months ago! and last time i saw you, you were skinny!'
i told him to go **** himself and all that jazz and was pretty upset about it dispite his 'im not being nasty' comments. it was also when he said that he had actually mentioned it to the friend that was staying as well, i felt completely humiliated.
it really did my head in. im so gutted.
Last edited by Raven : 21-11-2008 at 11:31 PM.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
Alright peeps,
Just letting you know i'm getting my account deleted.
So it's *toodlepip* from me.
I wish you all the best of luck with your futures. You're all fabulous mothers, never doubt yourselves.
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Take care of yourselves,
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oh laura, i dont know if you will get this message here. i hope you are ok and you are leaving the site because you are feeling that you are at a positive stage in your life. thank you, i have enjoyed your posts. x
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
Stace....1.ignore him,I know its harder in reality but he sounds like a ******** and tbh his opinion means sweet F.A! Your other half sounds like he still finds you extremly sexy and hes the one youre with so this other guy can piss off!
2.Ive seen photos of you and I think youre gorgeous,truly....and youve had a baby!No one expects you to snap back into shape, only celebrity mothers seem to manage that and thats because theyre all image obsessed and survive on water and lettuce.
3. I know its hard when youre depressed, (although Ive never had PND) to find positive things about yourself, but youre a really lovely person from what Ive seen and a fantastic and devoted mum.
Im really glad you stuck up for yourself with this guy, he sounds like a pathetic loser. Have you told your other half what was said? I know its hard but listen to what your man says about how gorgeous you are!You know deep down that he means every word and he loves you so much. So youve got a bit of a stomach, you also got a wonderful little girl out of it and thats such a big thing.
I hope this post helps you some what because you really are a lovely person and you deserve to feel good about yourself.xx
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
Stace, guys like that seem to get happy by making pregnant comments to women that they know aren't expecting. It says a lot more about what a looser he is than about how you actually look! You feel worse about yourself because of the PND but seriously, all new mother's have a biggerr stomach! And 6 months isn't long at all, what would he know!
Berni, have you tried putting him in his pram/sling and going out for a walk? That always used to calm Oliver down (still does) and at the very least screaming doesn't seem so loud when you're outside! If you're sure he's still hungry don't be afraid to give him more milk.. he could be having a growth spurt, or teething?
If all else fails, just put him somewhere safe and leave the room for a couple of minutes before you go in and try again - 5 minutes to clear your head can make the world of difference, and won't cause him any harm. I hope he settles for you soon.
thanks guys i really appreciate the encouraging comments and compliments. it just really caught me off guard, i didnt realise someone would be so blatantly rude and cruel. so not happy about that. but **** it, next time i see him i wont be acknowledging him.
CONGRATULATIONS TO LAUREN ON BABY MASON MARC!!!!! cant wait to see pics!!!!!!!!!!!
sorry to hear kyle is driving you round the bend berni. i had this a lot with freyja and was often on my own, overnight sometimes too. its got a lot better with time, but she still has those days. i hope he will settle down soon. are you using anything else for the teething? i found the gel is just a quick fix. try ashton and parsons powder and see if that makes any difference to his moods.
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
Would it help to use the night time bottles during the day? Or am I missing the point? Some days I just walk and walk and walk with Adela till I wear us both out.
yeah what about using the bottles you use at night during the day? he might just not like the bottles you are using during the day. freyja wasnt keen on the breastflow ones i sent you, even though i got glowing reports from everyone else who used them - they just werent for her is all.
i went to my friends tonight, left jamie to put freyja to bed. she started screaming as he was trying to feed her just as i was getting ready to leave. he asked me to leave as he felt me being around was making her worse as she is used to me feeding her. i left and i was in my friends door (lives round the corner) 10 mins when my phone rang and all i could here was freyja screaming her head off in the background and jamie telling me she wouldnt settle. so had to come back home, took me 10 mins to get her settled and off to sleep then back out again. apparently she woke soon after and did the same but jamie just left her to it in her bedroom as nothing he tried worked. and she just went off to sleep. i found the controlled crying worked for us personally, i started leaving her to cry when it was bed or nap time, going in every couple of mins to give her a quick backrub and reassure her that i was still there. she has been so much more contented since that, not so clingy and goes to sleep easier and sleeps for longer as she can self soothe when she wakes up. kyle is a bit young for all that at the moment, but its an option for the future if you feel up to it. i am quite strong when it comes to freyja, when she was little i used to jump to her everytime she cried and i found that she was playing on it and crying more often as a result. with the controlled crying she learned that she does not get picked up every time she feels like it, but that i still love her as i spend a lot of time with her generally and still soothe her when shes crying, but if its bedtime, i keep my soothing short, return frequently and i dont pick her up.
Last edited by Raven : 23-11-2008 at 12:19 AM.
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"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
awww congratulations hun! enjoy your pregnancy, it has its ups and downs, aches and pains but it is a beautiful time and experience. i really miss being pregnant. i loved it, wasnt so fond of the morning sickness and the swollen legs but i miss my bump so much and holding your baby for the first time is a life changing experience. have a happy, healthy nine months!
"When I want your opinion, I'll beat it out of you" - Dr Samuel Loomis
I'm not really seeing much of the beautiful yet. Haha. I'm nauseous and hungry all the time! Here's to eating a whole bag of tortilla chips today! :D I'm excited about the kid, but it's REALLY expensive. Haha.
Are you still producing any milk? How long has it been since you stopped breastfeeding again? Do you think maybe he won't take bottles from you because he knows you have the 'real' thing and he can smell that, whereas with Chris he knows there's no alternative than the bottle. I know a lot of mums who've had to have someone else feed their baby to get them to take the bottle because they can smell the breastmilk and fuss for that. Maybe he feeds better at night because he's sleepy and just sucks automatically? I don't know, but I hope you sort it out soon.
