The Borderline Personality Disorder Thread

[~Grace~]

Thats brilliant news mari, Im so thrilled for you...well done! xx

Hi Dannie, how are you? xx

Claire my sweet, I really hope the gp can help you and increase your meds xx

Cheryl...I havent seen the piccies of your party but im sure you looked lovely...you have such a pretty face xx

Ev...I sorry your struggling hun. I do tnink you should consider going to the graduation, you may have regrets if you dont go xx

Sam, sorry your little one is feeling poorly...how are you? xx

[Bleeding Angel]

how are you rowie?

Im not sure if i will do it or not, it will be good experiance voluntarlly but its hard to remember anything from my last course.

[ferretmonster]

wow mari that would be so cool!

i know i know but i especially need them for my trip away because ill have so little control over what i eat because its down to the ppl im staying with, and yeah boyf heard and muttered.


hi danni :)

hows my lovely rowie?
sam hope your lil un gets better soon,

[Kitkat :)]

I'm alright this morning... I slept from 3 in the morning and I woke up an hour ago :S I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight...

Don't think there's anyone I can talk to, I could always go back to my GP but I'm gonna seem so pathetic if I go back just weeks after being discharged...

[ferretmonster]

no no no kitkat it won't i always feel the same but if your struggling its definalty the way forward, x

[Kitkat :)]

Well the good thing is my Mum's ready for me to go back to the doctors if I need to.

I don't know if it's just gonna go down the same route again though... We never really get anywhere in the therapy and then I get discharged too early again.

[~Grace~]

Im doing ok thank you Mari and Claire...in that i dont have any bad thoughts or urges.
But i am really struggling with eating..its like if i allow myself something to eat it opens up the floodgates and i just fill my face with anything and everything...i pig out and binge. The only way i can deal with this is to not eat and i know that is wrong..but i cant keep binging and putting on the weight. Maybe i could try something in the evenings when theres not much time for me to binge
Ive tried to explain it to my hubby so he can keep the foods that i binge on out of my sight and in the cupboards which he is doing sofar, bless him.

[lost and lonely]

Hi to all the new people, sorry I've not said it before.

Hope's everyone's ok? (((hugs))) to all those struggling at the moment.

I'm still feeling really lost at the moment, still cant find the words, they are so jumbled in my head, they don't make sense.

[Left in the centre]

rowie - its good that your talking about it and trying out different stratergies to minimise the damage, thats sucha positive step.

kit kat - have you thought about why you get discharged what do the docs say ? . If you go back to the docs could you start from saying that you always get discharged early, that what i did people told me i smiled and looked happy so i had to start telling every new person thats how i come accross but its not true.

claire - diet pills arent a smart move. chances are if your away you'll be so busy hopefully, that you wont have time to obsess over what your eating. its like giving yourself a break. But diet pils are expensive and rarely work.

me - im back from holiday now guys. it was good, kept my craziness to a minimum :D

ldc - sorry your struggling hunny, how long has it been going on for have you tried writing ? i find writing random words leads to me sometimes being able to figure stuff out.

[sugarfree]

Never posted before. Been member for long time. too scared before. Went to psych said I had Dbt. Want to know more.

[ferretmonster]

sorry sugarfree i dont really understand what your asking? are you saying you have already had dbt or that your going to get it?

[Bleeding Angel]

eh.

Be clear in what your saying, cant understand cryptic messages, but if you want to know more about dbt google it.

[youngatheart]

Mari~ that sounds great! must feel good to be selected.
Rowie ~ thats so sweet of your husband. charlie seems to be a little better now thanks :) Back to asking a hundred questions a minute so improving :)
Sugarfree, hi how are you?

Sarah ~ Im glad you had a good holiday :)
kitkat ~ i would definatly go back

[~Grace~]

Ok...difficult question...
My daughter is going away to turkey with her best friend and parents in August.

BUT....

She has just told me that her friend has been punched in the face and ribs at least twice by her mother...both my daughter and her friend have reported this to the head of year at school and they are now getting the social services involved...or rather they are going to notify the social services.

what would you do?

Ive asked her if she is still happy to go..she said yes... shes said that the father tries to stop it from happening

Even typing this i think i know what the answer should be. But would you still let her go? She is 15 and her friend is 14

thing is, i know the mum and im in shock that it happens. I know that she gets very hormonal so that could be the reason...though its no excuse for the behaviour.

Its just that its a holiday abroad in the sun, something she hasnt had in a long while because of me and my scars...but then i would never forgive myself if anything happened to her.....

[Bleeding Angel]

I think its a tricky one. Personally i would say no because its another country and if anything happens you wont be there, and there could be nothing you could do. Its not that this person would hurt your daughter, but more if she hurts her own and a situation occurs your daughter will be stuck in the middle of it and could get her herself.

I think you should talk to her about it in detail and ask her what she would do in a situation, and make sure she can contact you at any time if something happens, and just have some precautions in place if something happens - if you do that then it should be fine, but i think you have to trust her as well.

[youngatheart]

Its a difficult one Rowie, I would say I wouldnt let hr go but your daughter is a young lady really so Im not as sure what Id do in those circumstances. Could be on holiday her mother will act perfectly fine. You still have a while to decide, but as Mari said make sure she knows what to do in situations and be able to contact you at any time.

[~Grace~]

Thank you both Mari and Sam...
I do trust my daughter, I think I will leave it a few days and then i will ask her how she is feeling about the holiday and remind her that she can use her mobile at anytime to contact us and make sure that shes knows what to do if anything happened. And also monitor how she feels about going away...things may cahnge if social services become involved


Thank you somuch xx

[Left in the centre]

rowie - just a thought.
but its also an occurance thing, if her mum is violent often then its more of a risk letting your daughter go. But if she feels comfortable enough to go , and so does her friend. Then maybe thats an ok option if she takes a number to get hold of you on in case anything does happen.

[Tig]

I hope it all works out Rowie. It must be very confusing for you to know what to do.

[Kitkat :)]

Yeah I'm thinking about going back... He just said that he didn't think I needed it anymore, he was really contradicting... He said he saw resolve in me to get better by myself but didn't doubt that I could become a full time psychiatric patient :/