I was convinced they'd say no, (because of a specific part of the process I didn't think we had a chance of getting through) and I had begun to accept that. And they've said yes.
I'm going to have to go to court. I don't know when.
if you think you know me in real life, no you don't.
Well, my lovely friend came round on Thursday night and we were chatting, and she didn't know that my parents knew NONE of it so we called them over (at like 11pm) and she sat with me while I told them.
Its just a lot. I started therapy on Friday so hopefully she can help me untangle everything so maybe I can start to process?
if you think you know me in real life, no you don't.
you've been waiting so long for answers. we can only imagine how much it is to try to deal with now knowing that it's moving forward. we're really glad you have some support and will start therapy too. thinking of you
Please do not give me virtual hugs unless you are only using the hug function on threads. Thanks.
You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
I'm glad you have a supportive friend and have started therapy. Did you have any impression about the therapist at your first session? I hope they are helpful and help you to manage things.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
It's online therapy (there is nothing in person anyone can offer me, that I can afford, that works around work. Unless you can do 9-5, the NHS don't offer anything for me) - she seemed okay. It's only 8 sessions though so I don't know really, I've not actually had a session, just an introduction.
if you think you know me in real life, no you don't.
I hope the next sessions are easier. It's good that you are allowed to talk about whatever you want, I hope you can find a way to talk through what is important to you. Do you have things you can do after sessions to settle your emotions?
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
I hope you have been managing to look after yourself and be kind to yourself. How are you feeling today? Would you like some ideas about how to manage after therapy? Not sure if I have any but maybe someone else will.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
Today was difficult, I was back at work (my cat passed away 2 weeks ago, and I work in a vets) - I was meant to be doing 9-6 and have 2 colleagues with me for support, and being able to take breaks and step out if I needed. I ended up having to do 9-7:15, and being by myself taking emergency calls and running reception from 5 ( so couldn't even step out if I needed) - because of people being off sick.
I haven't even begun to process my session, but I did sleep last night, whether that was out of exhaustion or what I don't know.
I messaged my police case support person on Tuesday and again today and haven't heard back from her.
if you think you know me in real life, no you don't.
The magistrates date has been, the first crown court date is the 3rd October. If he pleads guilty, this is all over. If not, I'm going to have to go to court.
if you think you know me in real life, no you don't.
It must be such a horrible place to be in not knowing how he is going to plead. I really hope he does plead guilty because he is guilty and you don't deserve to be put through even more. Have you any idea how you might feel/any plans on what you'll do depending on the outcome?
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
has it been for nothing though if he isn't convincted? of course in the justice system it doesnt change anything. but is there anything to be said for standing up for yourself and making it known? it's okay if not this isn't a right or wrong question. just... are you doing it for any other reason aside from dealing with the justice system?
it seems like things are moving along now and we are glad you have therapy right now to get some support. v much hope for your sake he does plead guilty but it's sensible to consider how you will cope with both outcomes.
Please do not give me virtual hugs unless you are only using the hug function on threads. Thanks.
You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
